I know I replied on an earlier post of yours about how your H is starting to go thru withdrawal- or he's at the end of his fog and about to start it. I found that withdrawal was just as much if not more gruelling than the fog stage- however I noticed in your posts that you say your H is having wild mood swings- one day insisting he'll work on the marriage, the next day not - my H was the same exact way. I think deep down the more back and forth they are the better- its a positive sign that they will probably choose the marriage in the long run- I didnt see ANYTHING hopeful about withdrawal when H was going thru it since he filed for D on me then cancelled and would change his mind right and left- but I just wanted to point this out that I think it is a positive sign in your case.Like you I was in therapy and began to emotionally detach from H about the time he finally committed to our marriage- that made me unleash all that suppressed anger I had inside during plan A and I went on a wild spending spree and then I went back and forth about whether I wanted to be married! Now we are both finally starting to get on the same page. lifeismessy