This is just something that has been bothering me<BR>....When my WH confessed to the affair (basically i cornered him into confessing) he cried and showed remorse and told me how sorry he was and how much he loved me....<BR>i asked him to leave and he wouldnt... basically i didnt wnt to see his face or hear his voice i was so angry with him that at that point All i wanted was to be alone to lick my wounds. also on DDay h insisted that they were just friends and that all they would ever be but his words in confession was....... I've been seeing someone else. <BR>yes i know this is fog.<P>but my point in this post is...... if the WS is really rependant why would they continue/ escalate the affair after the BS knows?, after they confess and show remorse and feel guilt why not end the relationship then and there?<P><BR>just something that bothers me

I'm sure it's different for different people. In my case, 9 months after no contact, I still feel somewhat like I'm mourning the loss of my best friend. No offense meant to BS's, bt my H was not my best friend and hadn't been for a long time before I even met OM. My H was certainly not being friendly after dday, so it took me a very long time to agree to no contact. Many LBs on both sides... I was sorry for hurting my H, but not sorry for feeling like myself, being happy and having fun.

Wow...Marrissa...<P>Nine months of no contact...and still 'mourning'? <P>I think I can relate...and believe you totally. <P>Has there not been ANY...easing of the pain? How have you done it?

Luvontherox, maybe because H got cornered into confessing?<BR>I am no expert and with great help I have had 100% no contact since d-day but just wondering if because your H didn't choose to confess, this keeps him confused?<P>Marissa, how sad. As lighthouse said, can we help you? <P>I wish for true happiness to return to you both.<P>Hugs,<P>------------------<BR>Fresh Start