Hi Y'all, it has been 6 months since WH of l9 yrs abandoned me and 2 sons. I have had only 1 personal contact and email during this time. Our oldest son graduated from boot camp at Ft. Sill OK last week and both WH and I both drove to it (12 Hrs). We were cordial to each other and I invited him to entertain son in our car so we were together as a family again. ON way back home, I had a blow out on my tire and a guy who was behind me (WH was in front in his car) stopped to change tire and told me he was on his way to tell his wife he wanted a trial separation. I told him to listen to what God was telling him as I could be his wife and could be dead or having to rely on someone else for help. Anyway, my WH and our kids ended up staying in a motel together while my car got fixed, it was quite an experience, we did not sleep together but it was like our old family vacations from years ago. The anger I felt is gone now and I feel sorry for WH, but I really don't trust his motives of being nice to me. I know that he is broke and pretty far down with his life and he is not with the OW now, she has moved out of town and I can tell the fog has lifted, but I am afraid that he is using me to get money and things! He did tell me he was sorry, but did not ask for me to forgive him and is not mentioning reconcilation as he filed for divorce in May but did not do anything to push it through since filing. He mentioned me signing a insurance release for him to get some money to pay bills and I am very cautious of his motives. Help, you who have been here how will I know if he is repentent and sincere. He has called and emailed each day, offered to help with boys and came by the house. I have offered him dinner and he accepted and we are very nice to each other. He hugs and kisses me, but does not give me any indication of what he wants to do? What do I do! H E L P!!!

I have not been in your situation, but the answer to your question that keeps screaming in my head is, "Talk to him about it!".<P>If you've learned anything from MB, it is to be open and honest. What would it hurt to ask your H if he has any motives right now? I would bet that you're well tuned into his lying phrases and faces by now, so no matter what he tells you, you'll know what he wants... if anything. <P>You've got some major doubts and concerns as to his behaviour towards you... and those reasons are completely validated. Your guard is up. There's nothing wrong with that.<P>Do you want to reconcile with your H? Have you asked him about it lately? He is the best one to give you any answers, you know that. <P>Karen<BR>