Well,I am stuck at home with the kids and the bills.I have been a stay at home dad for 3 or 4 years now so my only income is what my ww gives me and my daughters ssi check.<P>Well,we are struggling to get by,I have not even been able to get my daughter new school clothes and she out grew most of her clothes over the summer.<P>I am strongly considering finding an apt.I found a few on the internet and they are both in good locations with good schools for my daughter and they are both a few hundred less than what I am paying here.<P>This house is in my wifes name so I do not feel any obligation to stay here.I do not feel like it is my home without her in it and I really just do not want to be here.

owen,<BR>How was your counseling session? Did your W go? <P>IF your W is still willing to go to counseling, then I would give it some time, and talk it over with your W before you do it. Give her a second chance at trying to be a team player, a better W and lover. Have you been plan Aing ?<BR>I am the WS, and I am so very thankful that my H (SEM) is giving me a second chance to prove to him that I am going to stay faithful and make our marriage more than it ever could have been. <BR>Good Luck. Sherry<P>

Actually our counseling got bumped to next week.THe doctor had a family emergency.<P>I am doing my best to plan a but i did some lb'ing the other day.My daughter had a school function and she said she could not go.I said how nice of your boyfriend to take priority over your daughter.Then I quickly calmed down and told her I was sorry for loosing my cool.<P>Then she got to crying telling me how scared and confused she is.Telling me she wants to work things out with me yet the om is telling her she is what he has been searching for his whole life etc.<P>I talked to the counseler on the phone yesterday briefly and told him the guy had said that.He said,men will say that when they know they are loosing the battle and he is probably trying to feed her enough bs to keep her there as long as he wants.<P>She also told me that he has an "ex" girlfriend that calls all the time.I told the dr. that and he said..well,he probably has girls lined up around the block.<P>

owen,<BR>Hang in there, your wife needs you right now. I'm sure it's hard to do but she really needs you to be there for her. The OM is going to keep feeding her a line of bull, so you just stand by her side,be a friend and commfort her. Be her support and try to stay strong and calm. If you try not to LB, then she will come back. Give her time and lots of love and patients. I know you can do it. So stay strong. Where here for ya buddy.Good luck Sherry

What size is your daughter? I have a daughter who might be bigger than yours? I could send you some stuff she has outgrown? Would you be open to that? <P>Don't worry. God will provide for all your needs as you keep Him as your #1 true love. <P>Does your daughter have special needs?<P>Consider yourself hugged... {{{{{{ooooo}}}}}}

Thanks bin.She does have special needs.She has been diagnosed with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder,mild retardation and a few other words I cannot begin to spell.<P>She wears an 8.<P>Jesus is number one in my life.I have told my wife that I will never be able to make her number one and that I did not expect her to ever make me number one either.We prayed together last night and I prayed that Jesus draw her back to him,when I did she cried a little.<P>For the most part we had a good visit,but it was our 7th anniversary and I was in a pretty bad mood all day.She did do somthing a bit unusual though.<P>For one thing,we have been kissing for the past 2 months.Well,I have always been the initator of that,but last night she did it each time and when she kissed me it just felt different...good different.<P>And the other thing,I wrote my daughters teacher a note asking if there was any kind of counseling at her school.My daughter has been having bad nightmares,repeated accidents in her pants,wetting the bed etc. since my wife left.Well,I told my wife that I talked to the teacher and she got a little upset about it.<P>I said why are you up set?She said...BECAUSE I AM EMBARRASSED ABOUT IT.I said,well,wife,I did not do this to hurt you but to help our daughter.I said,if i truely wanted to hurt you I would have found many many ways to do so before now.

Dear owen,<P>I'm sorry to hear about your daughter's regressive behavior. She is probably sensing your depression and it is affecting her as well. Of course, she misses her mom. At least special needs teachers are very compassionate and will take good care of your daughter if she has accidents at school.<P>Perhaps your wife is embarrassed because she realizes she is the cause of everyone's misery. I'm praying for you.<P>The reason why I said what I said about God is because I have now learned that I cannot assume that everyone on this forum is Christian, believes in Jesus as God, and embraces biblical principles at face value--not to offend you in any way.<P>If it makes you feel any better(?), or consoles you in any way, I am a mom of 1st grade special needs twins so I understand the concept of toilet trouble at an age where you shouldn't need to worry about it. One of my twins has cerebral palsy and so far has been showing signs of incontinence--has never used the toilet.<P>Unfortunately my daughter is the same size as yours, otherwise I would ask for your address and mail you some stuff IMMEDIATELY! Hang in there and keep the faith! Doesn't sound like things could get any worse for you. It's a good thing that God works miracles! I'm praying for a few for you!

No offense taken and thank you for the kind offer!<P>Even though yesterday was our anniversary and I will not see my wife until tomorrow,I was at walmart a bit ago and got her a beautiful card and a cd she has been wanting.Figure if nothing else,I can kill her with kindness.<P>Thank you for your prayers and I am hoping for a miracle soon.

Dear owen,<P>YOU WILL NOT BELIEVE THIS... Over this weekend, I received 2 bags of clothing--one with only girl's size 8 clothes in it--out of the blue! Do you want them? I believe these are for you... It's just way too much of a coincident.<P>If you want them let me know. I will box them up and mail to you promptly.