Thanks for the quick responses. I am currently in counseling and it seems to be helping. I have good days and bad days just like everyone else. Confusedmom I too think that my W felt I had anger problems. She never comunicated with me. (maybe she tried and i didn't listen) That may be our problem. My wife accursed me of abuse up until she was caught with OM. I caught them at her work! It was very hard to control my emotions I just left without them knowing I was there. We had a bad fight two months ago and she asked me to leave. No physical damage but a lot of yelling. Since she moved out I am try to be as nice as possible. I believe she will be asking for a divource. Am I replying to this right? Well thanks again for helping...