Orchid,<P>I do not know your entire story and I see that you are getting a lot of good advices here from wise people. <P>Quote:<P><B> "He needs to stop feeling like he owes the "rabbit". He doesn't owe her anything. Too bad if she's upset. She entered into a relationship with a married man, why should she be owed anything for doing such an immoral thing." </B> <P>This is true! He owes her nothing. Have this talk with him.<P>Again, I do not know your story so disregard the following if it's not applicable. Are you going to counceling? Is he? Have he read any books or info on this site? If not, is there a chance you could f ex give him a book as a gift? I did, I gave him "Getting the love you want", Harville Hendrix, it took some time before it was read but it was eventually, and it made a difference.<P>I am not going to give you any advice whether to stay and Plan A or go to Plan B. This answer is within you.<P>I think about you!<BR>-she-<P><p>[This message has been edited by she (edited September 05, 2001).]