My WH's cell bill continues to come to our house and not his address I truly have nothing to do with that he did change it but it still comes here. I open it and look over the calls of course he is still calling her only on her cell and at her work extension. My question is I know this is a huge LB because he doesn't want me to see his bill says he will show it to me if I ask. Anyway I got it opened it and he ask if it came yesterday and I said no. Now what do I do? I know I have to hand it over. It infuraiates me that he still has contact with her. Obviously her H doesn't know because the calls are ususally early in the morning on her way to work. I hate this OW more than anything for her part in all of this. How can she even sleep at night knowing that she has helped to destroy someone else's family. She then goes home to her H like nothing is going on. Her H knows that they are friends but has no clue that the friendship involves numerous daily phone calls, messaging on the weekends. I know what's going on they think I'm stupid. How do I just let go and not worry about him talking to her? Need some advice.<BR>cybil

Hi cybil - I suggest you backtrack and tell him the truth.<P>Tell him that you got the bill, you opened it and you lied to him about it, but now you realize that you shouldn't have lied to him - if you really believe this.<P>Tell him exactly why you opened it - you're hurting and his continuing deception has forced you to be a snoop for your own survival.<P>He may be mad and huff and puff, but inside I'll bet he'll understand.<P>I recently had to admit to my wife that I was reading her e-mail. After dodging her first question, I wrote her a message that said simply, "Yes, I admit to reading your e-mail. You know why." Surprisingly, she said she understood.<P>Please practice radical honesty.<P>Good luck,<BR>WAT <P>