well....i've been away for a while. have had lots of things going on lately.<P>first and foremost.....from here on out i'm looking out for me and my daughters. my wh can go jump off a cliff as far as i'm concerned. i'm way over it......he's seen to that. he's gotten exactly what he wanted....the ow.<P>she can have him....he isn't worth my time or energy anymore. i refuse to put time into this anymore.....to get absolutley nothing in return.<P>he will one day see his mistake.....but it's too late. this is my decision. he has actually told me that he has had doubts about the ow.....and that he has thought of coming home....and i told him that he thought about it a little too late.<P>i cannot do this to myself or my daughters anymore. we deserve to be happy and being in this situation does not make us happy. so....we move on and find happiness elsewhere.<P>i'm sure that not everyone will agree....but this is my decision. divorce WILL happen.<P>i feel like a great weight has been lifted from me.

Hi Mp. Wondered what happened to you. Are you serious it's really over? Are you fileing? Please talk to me. I'm worried about you.<BR>cybil

hi cybil......i'm serious as a heart attack.<P>i'm over this whole situation. over the way i feel every day when i wake up and wonder about my life and the hell he has made it for me and my daughters.<P>i just want it all to end.....let me go find someone that will make me and my daughters happy....he is no longer the kind of person that can do that....he isn't willing to do it.

miss priss,<BR>I'm so sorry you are at the end of your rope. this has been a long and very hard journey. I have been wondering about you.<P>Do you think you can step back and study up on Plan B? Write your Plan B letter, and we'll help you get going on Plan B?<P>it would be a better step for you I think, then filing. We are here for you though, whatever you decide.<P>What happened? Tell us what has brought you to this conclusion tonight.

truth to be told.........him taking the girls around the ow is what did it for me.<P>he had the girls last weekend and i went out of town.....keeping in touch with the girls by cell phone and not one word about them doing anything with the ow. my wh had plenty of opportunities to tell me.<P>i found out that they were with her for practically the whole weekend....even at her apartment.<P>when they came home all i heard was.....<ow> this and <ow> that.....talk about having your feelings hurt.<P>THAT is what made me make my decision.

OMGosh,<P>Are you okay? You sound okay, I mean, you sound like you are at peace with your decision. No one here can blame you. It's a very personal journey when we decide on new directions in life. What is right for one is not right for another. What feels okay to some does not feel okay for another.<P>I support you. If this is going to give you peace and help you be the best mom you can be to your daughters, go for it. H should not be "flaunting" OW in front of your kids! But I don't know if you can stop H from bringing your daughters around his girlfriend... <P>I mean, I just don't see how you're going to be able to control that??? Did your daughters like OW??? Is that what drove you to the edge? Just wondering what their actual comments were--whether they seemed impressed with her or not. *sigh* Not easy to hear esp. when it was all done behind your back. It doesn't really matter what they said about OW, but it does matter that H didn't ask for your agreement to do that. He probably knew you would oppose.<P>Consider yourself hugged. Take care of your girls. Show them through your actions what sort of behavior is acceptable or unacceptable from their future husbands...<p>[This message has been edited by BINthereDUNthat (edited September 06, 2001).]

MP,<P>Remember my children being around OM... I know where your at and what your going through.. If you need to hash this out and vent you know I'm here for you. You can do it here.. via email/icq which ever you want. I hope you take a few days to make peace with yourself before you start/complete the process you are about to embark.<P>HUGGGGS<P>------------------<BR>Semper Fi,<P><B>Husband2You</B><BR>«¤»¥«¤»§«¤»¥«¤»§«¤»¥«¤»§«¤»¥«¤»§«¤»¥«¤»§«¤»¥«¤»<BR><I>···In the valley of the blind the one eye'd man is King···</I><P>· E-mail: <B> husband2you@petroleum.org </B> · ICQ: <B><A HREF="http://wwp.icq.com/1206499" TARGET=_blank>1206499</A></B> · Formerly: <B>E m p t y</B> ·

MP,<BR>I can see how his actions have lead you to a decision like this - I know you just want this bad dream to be over - unfortunately when we have children - it is never over.<P>Really sounds like H is not adhering to any POJA - <P>Are you reading up on the D/D board? To begin to formulate your plans - learn as much as you can over there - - - - I am truly sorry for what you've had to go through. Unfortunately - your H will realize when it is too late . . . . Think about a strong Plan B to go through - maybe since you've made this decision (since it sounds like Plan A hasn't completely worked) that a divorce is coming - a Plan B (let her have him all the way and she will turn - like SAA - ) and he will realize what his life will be . . .<P>My prayers are with you - I am really sorry to hear this news - here is a hug for you ((((((((( O )))))))))) aftershock