my husband moved out in jan 2001. and by the end of feb was living w/the ow. he is still currently living there.at first he didn't want to work things out but in june said he wanted to. he hasn't done anything to prove that to me though. i have asked him countless times what is taking him so long to move out and he keeps on w/he needs time.he doesn't want it to look bad b/c they work together.meanwhile he is telling her he is getting divorced.he tells us different stories and gets upset when i ask him why he acts like that.we have a 6yr old daughter whom he comes to see when its convient for him.meanwhile he spends every minute w ow.we are currently in counseling but i don't see things going anywhere.i would like to work things out only if he changes.he says he is doing things even though i might not see it???i feel like he is just lying and talking in that way b/c it will keep me quiet.i just want a definite answer as to what he wants to do.he claims he wants his family but then why does he act like we don't exist?this has been going on for 8 months already and i am beyond tired,frustrated and upset. somedays i even cry i really don't know if i should continue joint counseling,get a divorce?i am so confused i would like some <BR>opinions. he never calls b/c he says i keep asking him the same questions and at the same time he doesn't even call his daughter b/c he claims he feels uncomfortable calling from ow house. she has no idea that he is in counseling and telling me the things that he does HELP

(((Leftalone))) Hugs to you. My heart goes out to you. You've come to a great place for advice and support. Look around the site, if you can, get Surviving An Affair, which is written by the Harleys (they started this website). Also, under the "Just Found Out" there is a thread on there for newcomers. It will explain a lot about what you and your husband are going through. We have all been there, and we share in your pain. It makes me so sad to see all the new people when they get here. The main thing for you to do is take care of you and your daughter. Read what you can here and post when you need to. I'm sure you'll get lots of other advice. My prayers for you and your family.<P>MOM