I am so sorry for the pain you are in, that your WS has put you through and the pain that your families will eventually feel when all is disclosed - and that time will come too.<P>My WH disclosed all details of his EA August 6th and even though I told him, clearly, that all contact with her must stop, she continued to call him and leave voice messages. I even called her and told her to leave him alone, he was committed to rebuilding his marriage/family. Of course, she promised that she would no longer call. She waited 2 days and called him, this time at work where she knew he would answer in person and told him that I had called & what I had told her.<P>It has been a long, long few weeks. I feel that I have lived a life time in just a few weeks. But after the last time I confronted him he says that he has made the decision to end it with the OW and try to rebuild our life. <P>I have read everything here, bought all of the Hurley books and encouraged my WH to read this great information as well and been practicing Plan A since July when he admitted to and emotional, but no physicial affair. <P>I basically have little to no trust in him at this point, but love him more than ever and want our family to survive. I do believe that he is trying, but he has admitted that he is in love with the OW and has lost all feelings for me. There is little that we are rebuilding our life on now except our history and our child, but to me that is a great place to start.<P>I hope the road ahead of you is not too bumpy, but be prepared. You sometimes feel that there is a new chapter written every day. But if you really love your spouse and want to do all the work it takes to save your marriage you will be able to keep your head held high that you have done "everything possible" to save your marriage.<P>I have read, many times, on this site that it is possible to save a marriage. I'm just not convinced yet that mine is one of those. When I allow myself to think of all the details and let my mind run as it does at times, I find it revolting to think of my husband "with" another woman. It is just sickening. But we took vows for better or worse and this is definently the worst I have come up against so far. <P>You will find much comfort from others on this site and in the books sold here. Always vent here, try not to with your spouse. I received the following reply to one of my 1st posts on this site -- everyday, ever how many times you need to, take a deep breath and repeat these words to yourself - patience, time and understanding. They really are words to live by while facing what we are up against.<P>Best of luck to you.<BR>Heartbreak25130
