Last week I saw a post here that referred to a book called Torn Asunder. I have purchased this book and am just about finished reading it and have a question. In a chapter dealing with rebuilding your relationship with the WS it suggest you may need to help jumpstart the WS into recovery. One method offered is for you, the BS, to write a story where you have an A with your WS’s best friend. The purpose of this exercise is to communicate the pain you both feel and also to primarily convey the pain you are feeling. I guess the hope is that once the WS feels your pain they may be more effective at recovery.<P>I have started my story. It is very realistic and I feel sets the stage in our marriage where my wife went astray. In my story however, it was I who found the comfort of another. Because in my story my wife is not only betrayed my me but also others she loves, I feel it has the potential to really impact her. We are currently in a state of limbo. I am hot and cold and am really having a hard time moving forward. My wife is just stuck with her head in the sand, although she has been crying a lot lately. We have had some workshops in church and were forced to look at our lives and value systems.<P>Anyway, my question is have any of you tried this and if so what was the outcome. Also I would appreciate any insight you guys may have. Thank you. Love,Joy,Peace<P>

Hi N2N. I don't know, it just sounds wrong to me, but if the book suggests it...<P>I have not tried it.

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by hurtbyhubby:<BR><B>Hi N2N. I don't know, it just sounds wrong to me, but if the book suggests it...<P>I have not tried it.</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>***************************<BR>It really sound a little riskey to me also. What do you feel is not right about it and do you feel it could hurt?