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Still executing (bad word choice?) plan A while ws has been moved out about a month and 1/2. Things are cordial between us and conversation centers around kids. Plan A is taking a huge amount of effort after her EA and after everything she said on the way out it's VERY difficult to keep this up.<P>No conversations about us or about OM because I don't want to pressure...I have given her lots of space! How long do I keep this up? She hasn't done anything negative that I'm aware of, PA or filing for divorce, but I feel like I deserve something for a little motivation!!! How long can her confusion or fog last?
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manfaith...<P>The timelines vary...but I have noticed that the first 4-5 months are the hardest...especially with intense contact...<P>Do something nice for yourself...I went to day spa...pampered myself whenever possible...<P>Hugs to you...<P>Cali<P>------------------<BR><I>Live Impeccably In Your Word.<BR>Don't Take Anything Personally.<BR>Make No Assumptions.<BR>Do Your Best Always. </I>
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hang in there manfaith...Improve and take care of yourself. You can work on improving yourself and try not to worry about her right now. Just wanted you to know that I am reading your post. <P>God Bless America.<P>Deb<BR>
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Thanks for your responses...<P>Cali, first four or five months? How long did yours last and whats your current status???<P>Just need a little lift now and then. I know it's only been a month and 1/2 since moving out, and it's been about 3 months since D Day, but it gets frustrating. I have been working on me and improving and it helps to stick to a "plan".<P>Someone else used the term (instead of Plan A) the Doormat Plan. It certainly feels like that! Especially after all the WS says and the strange behavior to just absorb it all and keep going takes damn near the effort of a Saint!<P>Day spa huh? They do have day spas for men but they are illegal everywhere but Nevada so I better pass.<P>Ken
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