For the last month I have wanted to contact the OWH to check on what he has heard. I have resisted. I did write a Anniv. letter to H and sent OW a copy of tht lettter to her work address. OW did not like that & told H to tell me to not do that again. OW also notice my spelling & grammatical errors, H said OW thought I was perfect until she saw my mistakes.<P>Since them OW+OWH move from their old address & phone #, they only have cells now. I could not find out OWH number so I called OW son. He is 24 for OWH's cell #. OW told my H that now she has lost all respect for me. (Like she had any in the first place.)<P>I don't know how they figure they will hurt me, by asking how I would feel if she called my D (19) or me at work.<BR>Daugther knows about OW since last week.<P><p>[This message has been edited by Exploding (edited September 12, 2001).]

Be careful not to become a stalker - that is illegal and dangerous... I would stop all contact with OW. She's really not worth it.

Do you care if someone so profoundly unworthy of respect has any respect for you? I don't imagine that her opinion should be worth much to you. I do agree with the other poster, though, it might be a good idea to lay off the calls and letters.

Exploding I think you need to sit down for a bit and STOP EXPLODING. Your actions sound really out there and obsessive. What was the point of sending OW a copy of an anniversary letter to your H? You are allowing her to be a third party in your marriage. You are giving her the power in your marriage. You are making yourself to look like the crazy, pathetic wife that most WS describe to OP or friends to justify the affair in the first place. Time to take stock and take better care of yourself mentally and physically, THINK BEFORE ACTING. Or come here first before you act in anger or haste.