<P>Over one year since d-day, plan "A" during same, and have discovered that WS has called OM from our house at their work location (school). OM is depositing money into W account (still). W denies everything (WS Oath). <P>WS is in the process of getting another job which will move move her away from the same work location as OM. Not sure if this is so she will not have to work with OM, as she tells me, or just for her own personal development. <P>I asked W "do you want me to leave?" W said "No". W said "were would I go". I told her "I am not worried about that,<BR>i will find somewhere." I also asked her " do you want to be with him (om)?" W said "No." I was calm the whole time, but firm. LB'ing? Sounds like major fence setting by W. And ya know, maybe me also(?). <P>My heart isn't into the move to Plan B yet . I guess this was a vailed threat on my part to leave?<P><BR>I asked W if she would send a "No Contact" letter to OM. She said "why is that needed." I told her "so i and we can close this chapter in our lives and move on." She said "she wants to close the chapter also." Then W told me "sure." about the "No Contact" letter. I have been wait about asking for the letter again, not wanting to LB, but I think I shouldn't let it drop. May ask today about drafting the letter and content. Confict avoidance I guess.<P>Thoughts, kick in the butt.....?

I am not in a good place to respond very well right now but I just wanted to agree with you to NOT let it drop. Make sure there is follow through.

I think it's a good idea to propose the no contact letter to OM. Do you think your wife would be open to the both of you drafting it together? You could maybe print some examples from others who have posted here. You would have to go back and search, but I'm sure there are examples out here for you to share with your wife. By the time it takes for you to find two or three examples, enough time should have gone by to allow room for no LBing.