In my case my ex started dating after the divorce. I'm trying to plan A him and prove hands down that i'm the best catch in town. i recently read a refrigerator magnet he received from the girl he was seeing. it was a poem by a 19th century poet to her husband. basically it is written from the point of view of being madly and deeply in love and feeling it is reciprocated, called Forever. I pointed out to him that she was after him for marriage (we have 4 kids together and this woman is divorced with 2 of her own). I think he thinks he can just date women for the fun of it with no strings attached and they are up for that. i warned him that most women are the same...need and want companionship, long term, not just to sit and chew the fat over a cup of coffee while pumping your ego. the other percentage are the ones just out for sex, no commitment. he hadn't read the magnet so i read it to him and he was very embarassed. i said see, i told you what you would find out there. i know women. i also predicted that all the women at his job would give him about 2 weeks space after finding out he is divorced and then they'd be pouncing with their phone numbers. he called and told me i was right and it was happening. <P>last night i went to drop off the kids with him and out to shop. i've been working hard on my appearance since he told me a year ago that i didn't have the physical attraction he wanted. i came in with the kids and he said, "you look really pretty". i've lost all the weight from having our 4th child 3 months ago. when he went to the door to carry the baby to the car for me i took a look in the kitchen and noticed that the magnet was GONE!! YEAH!! I wanted to jump for joy. now if he has her over, she'll see her little gift is gone. thus telling her that there is not going to be a "forever" between them.<P>of course i realize he could start dating another women any time he wants and then i'd have to deal with what goodies she offers. but i'm not giving up. he's talking to me everyday though usually about the kids or our internet business. but i always sign my emails, i love you. <P>the only negative feedback i'm getting is that when i told him i was joining the fitness center, he acted like a brother and said be sure to wear something sexy so you can turn the guys' heads. i said i only wanted to turn his head. he said, "just relax and enjoy it. it'll make you feel good about yourself" of course i know he is wanting me to date so it relieves him of the guilt of him dating and me stuck home with the kids and no way to meet people.<P>i don't know if that means he is anxious for me to move on to another man so he can have the burden of me gone and plunge ahead into his own and really meant it that he would never marry me again. he did tell me once that the door was not permanently shut on our getting back together.
