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Another poster wrote:<BR><<<My HB says "I'm not sorry for what I did, I'm sorry that what I did hurt you.">>><P>This is EXACTLY where I am now. <P>How am I supposed to get past this?<P>How am I supposed to believe that it won't happen again (like he says,) when I know damn good and well he STILL thinks there was nothing wrong with it the first time???<P>And every one of the skanky little wh*res still working right there with him all day, every day!<P>Psycho_B***h<P>
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psycho_b,<P>Well, I hate to say this, but if he's not sorry for what he did, then yes, I think he'll do it again. He'll just be more careful next time. That remark would concern me greatly!<P>sis
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Why do you want to be married to someone who feels it is OK to have affairs?
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Psych:<P>My H is just like yours. He felt he deserved it because he was unhappy with our M. Well, come to find out he had A's when we were really getting along great. He admitted this. My final conclusion is that he is a "chronic" cheater. There really is no "reason" why he does it. Our MC even said he did it because he could. Wow, isn't that a relief. No amount of plan A is going to help an A addict.<P>I told my H (who wants to stay together, but on his terms) that obviously he was unhappy being married, still is & needs to be single. I think he likes the noncommitment etc from his girlfriends.<P>Brought home the D papers today. Too afraid he'l never stop cheating.<P>It's taken 8 long months. I think I still love him, but it's not worth it. I need someone with the same values & morals as me.
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Hmmmmmmm...I wouldnt be so hasty. In my case, I am the WS..and your H could be where I was before....still in a fog.<P>I didnt want to own up to the A...didnt want to be blamed totally for it... I blamed his anger and temper... so therefore I could almost justify having the A. This might be the case with your H...perhaps he has to justify it in his own mind...at least for now.<P>Just my thoughts....... good luck.....<P>------------------<BR>..climbing the rainbow..
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