I recently found out my wife was with another man one time. She barely knew him. We have been married 12 years, 2 kids. I thought we were so close. I never ever thought she could do this to me. I had to find out on my own by snooping. When I confronted her, she admitted everything and said that had been a terrible mistake that she hadn't meant to happen. She said there had been no love between them and she felt extremely guilty. I had noticed the change. She had lied to me and used me so she could meet with him. It all feels so discusting. The lies on top of lies. It never ends I guess. I feel so betrayed. Over 12 years you build up a lot of trust. It's all gone now. I still love her, but I'm having a hard time controlling my emotions. It's like a roller coaster. I'm up and down. When I found out, she didn't hesitate about where she wouldn't to be. She begged for forgiveness and to have a second chance. It's only been 3 weeks since I found out. It is still eating at me inside. The images in my head won't stop. I believe I can forgive her, but not forget. I don't want to hold this over her head forever. She has been the perect wife until now. She was under a great deal of stress at work(threatened job loss) when this happen. She was greatly depressed when he called.....and she went to him. She still says she doesn't know why she did it and that it is a painful memory for her as well as me. I truly believe she has told me the whole truth. We are together now and I hope it lasts. It's a constant battle to stay sane. How do we get through this? Can I forget? Is there any chance for us? Please help me.

Hi there,<P>No you will never forget, but a lot of time will dim the images. As to forgiveness, that is a choice you can make, and from my own experience, I would suggest you try to do this as soon as you can, because if you don't, you will LB all over the place until it is too late.<P>Please click on the link below for a really good article on forgiveness.<P>Jacky<P> <A HREF="http://www.weiner-davis.com/forumlinks4.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.weiner-davis.com/forumlinks4.html</A>