He feels very disappointed in his brother, but knows he is confused. Wants to give him hope that he can work it out, but does not know how to approach it, so he isn't right now. Any advice for him, maybe from WS's? He just wants to tell him the problems he has had in marriage, and impart some of the lessons he learned. He said he wil always support his brother and love him, but wants him to know that he is disappointed about the way he is handling all of this, not giving us a chance to work on things, continuing with the OW and not talking to ANY but her, essentially freezing people out. All because he "can't talk with" me. BIL says he can't talk with anyone who he cares about their opinion of him, that's why he won't talk to his family and close friends, only her because she bucks him up.<P>He wants to be there for his brother, and be supportive. But doesn't know how to softly make his point. Any advice...he feels helpless for both me and for his brother (my H) and wants to let him know he can talk to him and he will listen, no matter what his opinion is he will be there for his Brother. <P>Any advice would be great, I'll pass it on to my BIL, he feels about as helpless as I do right now.

My BIL did the same thing---told my H to get his a$$ home with his family----He doesn't speak to his brother much anymore. My advice is to tell your BIL to tell him brother that he loves him, and when he is ready to talk, then he will be willing to listen! <P>That is MHO.....<P>Krystal