I'm sure everyone's going to be posting their updates after being away for so long. So I'll try to be brief. I missed everyone!!! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]<P>Well, H has taken 180 degree turn. Wants to move out again - to be "alone" - to figure himself out. He's probably going to move out this weekend. I do know that contact with OW continues - although I don't know to what extent exactly. I know he was over there some this weekend... sigh.....<P>We called in to Steve H. on Monday. He is wonderful!!!! I HIGHLY recommend everyone making an appointment with him - it's WELL worth the money. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] H did NOT want to call - even though last week he was all gung ho and promised to call in with me. So I asked him to keep his promise. Well, they talked for a long time [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img], and H is going to call again tomorrow (Friday). I'm telling ya, Steve is amazing if he got H to agree to that!<P>I'll post my free-bee Steve pointers later, but basically, he acknowledged my H's desire to be "happy", and didn't push him to "stay married", and encouraged me to keep on Plan A'ing - mainly avoiding LB's at ALL COSTS.<P>I'm doing fine. My energy level is good - I realize this is his waffling time, and I can only control my behavior and attitude.<P>That's it in a nutshell.

You've had so much faith for so long...just hang tight...<P>I'm glad he talked to Steve and I will pray that he continues...<P>Cherish the time you've had together and make the most of any time you get...<P>If our own hearts and minds can be so changed, why not that of our spouses? God can and will, in His time...<P>Love,<BR>Cali

Hi faith, I will be praying for you, that's great that your H agrees to talk to steve h. wish my H would talk to someone. Hang in there your sounding strong. Love Sally

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Faith1:<BR><STRONG>Well, H has taken 180 degree turn. I realize this is his waffling time, and I can only control my behavior and attitude.<P></STRONG><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Hey, Lil Sis. I've missed you! You have always been sooo upbeat....just hang in there. This IS the "waffling time," just as you said. YOU WILL make it through this! Just keep the faith....you can do it. <P>Just 5 more minutes. [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img]<P>Love & Prayers,<BR>Lupo

I'm so glad to hear that your H talked with Steve. How are you doing? Keep up the good work--I know it's tough.

You sound pretty upbeat. That's wonderful! (with all things considered).<P>I was turning on icq periodically to see if you were there and wanted to chat. Obviously you've been pretty busy this past week! <P>Keep your chin up hon! You are so strong now. Never lose that inner strength.<P>Karen

Faith1,<BR>I'm praying that your H will soon stop his waffling and decide that he needs only YOU in his life. You have a very strong faith that the Lord knows the plans he has for you. I try so hard to have that same faith every day. You will be so much stronger in your faith at the end of all of this, whatever happens. I KNOW God wants your marriage. I think part of his plan is to teach ALL of us the patience to wait on him. I will pray for you and your H.

Hi Faith!! yeah, this is wafle time. Hate to hear that you are going through this...<P>try to stay stong, talking to Steve is key in all this.<P>As long as their is contact you will go through this...<P>Hugs,<BR>HbH