Big question for all of you--<BR>H has broke it off with OW before and within a month was talking to her again and hiding it from me. His relationship lasted almost a year with me knowing the whole time except those last couple of months. He is saying again that he is not talking to her and hasn't talked to her in over a month. He won't write a no contact letter "since it would just start everything up again" (his words). Now my questions:<P>1. How do I believe him this time? I believed him last time and was screwed over.<P>2. With him being a musician that is playing music on the weekends and soon during the weeks, will we ever recover from this? Will I ever live through a weekend without wondering who he is with?<P>I'm having a hard time believing he has had no contact and the band is talking about going to play at a club that is in the state where she lives. (Also the club where they would have their little get-togethers--his mother even saw them together when she went down there and I was sitting at home with the kids.) H knows I don't want him there and I don't know how to handle this without blowing up. I would ask to go with him, but he wouldn't agree with that either since I'm not allowed to go to any of his shows because I'm "so jealous".

Up<P>I really would appreciate some advice on this especially from a WS.

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by dumplin:<BR><STRONG>Up<P>I really would appreciate some advice on this especially from a WS.</STRONG><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P> [email]null[/email]newing80@msn.com <BR>If they give you no reason to trust them again, how can you? They act as though it is your problem you do not trust them!