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Best way to respond??
#2924096 10/15/01 06:58 PM
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WS and I have been seperated for a week and a 1/2. It is what she wanted, but as we communicate, either in notes she sends through our daughters schoolbag or in notes she leaves in our house when she comes to get some things. She displays so much anger at me! So much sarcasm. What is the best way to respond to this junk?<P>Thanks as always
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cooly and calmly...<P>My H had a lot of anger and sarcasm too...when I didn't add fuel to the fire it soon burned out...now he has to 'work' to get angry and it really seems out of place...even he realizes it.<P>Cali
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If you are committed to Plan A whatever you do, do not LB. Respond lovingly and calmly. Go out of your way to be polite. Take the high road at all times. Cali is right, soon the anger will subside and you begin to actually talk about things like adults.
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Personally, I would not respond to the sarcasm or the anger. It gives them what they want, a reaction. It gives them the control of the situation. I would pass right by it and if they comment on it, simply state, "I can see by your tone and the way you are speaking that right now isn't the best time to talk about this. When you are calmer, I'll be happy to talk to you about it." Let it go, and like Cali said, it will burn itself out. When they realize that they are not going to get the response from you that they expect, they will change the behavior.<P>*Go confidently in the direction of your dreams.*<P>Trueheart

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