h moved out of ow house about 4wks ago.he has moved back in and we are supposedly working on being friends.him and her work together he claims they are over.only thing is he stays at work late (claims he is working)doesn't call to say he is working late also doesn't usually call me at work during the day.this makes me a bit confused if he wants to work on friendship should he at least put that much effort into it.we have a 6 yr old who just adores him. i am really trying to be patient.we talk at home and we spend the wkends together.him working late is something he did in the past but it makes me nervous due to all that is/has happened.i don't think we can work on friendship if him and her as still an item.he claims they are just friends but that strikes me a a problem. they have been together for a little over a yr.i just don't see things ending cold turkey.as for now we don't even mention we are married we are just working on friendship is this odd? i feel i still deserve more attention even as just friends.i am trying to work on communication,and being there for him but am i just wasting my time?i really can't stand to get hurt again.besides the fact that he still has his coats at her house and it is getting cold he claims he will go there to get them i am not crazy about that idea.do you think i'm expecting/wanting to much to soon. i just don't want to be taken advantage of. i talk to him but at the same time keep my distance b/c i am really scared

Please read some of the replies in MAEZY's thread.<BR>It sounds like the two of you need to both put some boundries in place to protect yourselves.

Hi leftalone,<BR>Sorry for what you have been through and what you are going through, but it's good that your H is back home. Have you guys been reading about the Harley concepts together? All very helpful on how you can recover from his affair. He needs to stop contacting OW tho, because it is for the best and gives you a chance to replenish your love bank stores in his account...<P>On boundaries, in the most recent newsletter, Steve Harley pointed out that boundaries are not the problem, the behavior that causes the boundaries to be set in the first place are what need to be resolved. Focus on that! Good luck!