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Hey all-<BR>I have a question and would like to get anyone's input/ideas.<P>For those who might not know-I took a leave form work and headed home with my girls for one month. To give H some time to maybe clear his head and start to figure some things out. We have talked a few times nothing major.<P>My sister thinks that I shouldn't initiate any of the contact, phone or e-mail, he should do it all. And if the girls call or he calls I shouldn't get on the phone unless he asks for me. What do you guys think? I had told him that I wasn't leaving as a punishment. If I didn't do any contacting wouldn't that be more LB and not conducive to Plan A. <P>Let me know what you guys think!
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<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by KID:<BR><STRONG> What do you guys think? I had told him that I wasn't leaving as a punishment. If I didn't do any contacting wouldn't that be more LB and not conducive to Plan A. <P>Let me know what you guys think!</STRONG><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>I often sent my H cards or left messages to say hi. I was very careful about not overdoing it though.
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KID<BR>How long have you been gone ? Is the plan that you will go back after one month ? What then ? What is your expectation ? How did your H sound during the conversations that you have had. Did you talk about your relationship or just general things ? Did you get the impression he was glad to talk to you ?<BR>Just curious as to what your plan really was and how you would measure any change. Was he receptive to the separation in the first place ? What was he supposed to be doing while you were gone ?
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Juice-<BR>Yes I will be returning after the month. After than I don't really know what will happen. It mostly is up to him. I'm hoping that some sort of healing might have started and he might be more willing to "work" on us. I am trying not to expect to much.<P> I am on my second week here.My H sounded ok during our brief convos. We didn't talk about our relatinship at all I really don't want to talk about that too much until I am home. <P>He was receptive to me going home for a bit since he had been talking about moving out for some time. This way I thought it was a little bit easier for everybody for a short time. What is he suppose to be doing? Who knows--I told him I hoped he was able to maybe sort a few things out in his head and to do some serious thinking. Hopefully he will do that.
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