Thank you all for the advice and encouragement. I am going to talk to Mr. Steve Harley next Monday. I will make some decision after that.

This sounds all to familiar to me because my H also wanted me to be friends with his OW. Only one thing is different, she was his "friend" before she became his lover. Not only that, she and her children by previous marriages lived in a rental property owned by me and my H. He felt sorry for her and talked me into allowing her to rent the place. This, of course, was all prior to my knowing her intentions. I had no idea that she planned to sink her claws into my H and spirit him away from me and our family.<p>Therefore, it is my personal recommendation that you not get involved at any level with your H's OW. Do not let her any further into the lives of you and your children. Do not allow her to disrespect you. The nerve of some people.....

Dang.......you'd think that that by now I'd learn NOT to double/triple/quadruple post!!!!!!!!<p>[ November 01, 2001: Message edited by: GeezLouise ]</p>

In short, you should not have to deal with the OP at all. Your husband's request and actions are emotionally abusive to say the least. First call block her numbers, second block her email using your spam features. I would "write" your husband a letter (keep a copy) stating such, letting him know that she is unwelcome in "your" life. I can&#8217;t speak to the restraining order, so if you can get one great. <p>
Sounds you are coming to a Plan-B decision point. All the Harley methodologies speak to treating the WS with respect and dignity. I can&#8217;t say that I've ever read anything about how to treat an OP that insists on becoming part of your life. <p>Lastly should you find her at your doorstep, I'm not too sure if I wouldn't throw a bucket of ice water on her. Or maybe you could hand her (just start loading her car) all of WS dirty laundry, boxed personal effects. Do you happen to have a child in diapers or a dog? Sorry&#8230; just my devious side thinking what extra "gifts" I might include in the box or bag of laundry. Oh yea, I've heard old bait does wonders. All the things in this last paragraph are probably best left to the imagination, but I hope it managed to put a smile on your face.