<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Marissa:
What made you choose your spouse? Originally,<p>She made me feel wanted, held me close, was open and approachable, sexual and friendly (nice). we enjoyed some of the same things, clubs music etc..<p>
and what made you choose them againafter the A?<p>Its not like i choose her after the affair, i choose to be married believing that I had not held up my end of the marriage as much as she hadnt, and that until i could confidently say that i was holding up my end then i had failed. I believed that if i were doing and being what she needed that she would become more of what she was. that she would again give to me what i needed and i would fall "In Love" with her again. and to some extent that has happened. <p>she has yet to come full circle she is still full of disrespectful judgements, angry outburst, and is not what i would generally describe as Nice to me but it is much better than it was, and its only been 15-16 months since d-day so i am trying very hard to be patient. I have love for her and at times tremendous desire for her and am commited to doing what i can, its really hard when she doesnt see how she is as a problem or wrong. what she finds "normal and appropriate" behavior is simply mean and controlling if things dont work out for us, that will be the reason, not because i didnt choose her, but because she resisted change so hard that i give up.<p><hr></blockquote>
