Just had a very good day and felt like posting here about it. Most of our counseling appointments have been pretty tough on me, lots of triggers, I cry alot, etc.<p>Today was almost the same. We talked alot, I cried again (I tend to do that alot). Then, we leave our session, I'm trying to make it to the car w/o exploding in tears, and my H makes me stop in the stairwell and just holds me. He kisses me alot and says some nice things, says "it wasn't as bad as it sounded in there, I wanted to say more but our time ran out". <p>I've just been so stressed lately and just talking about everything makes me so emotional. I guess I just needed a good cry to get it all out...<p>My H also chose to quit his 3rd shift job so he can have more time to work on the marriage/his health. He is giving his notice for just after Thanksgiving. I'm sure this will drag out though (as everything else with him), but at least he is taking the first step.<p>I guess I'm happy about this because he made this decision totally on his own. He tried to get me to make him quit (you know the whole control thing - he instigates it too lots of times), but I said no. I will support whatever decision he makes, but I will NOT be involved in that decision. It is his choice, my opinion is that it's a good idea to quit and find a new job that does not interfere as much with our recovery, but I don't want him doing it for me. He has to be happy with his decision and not come back and resent me for it later. I'll accept whatever he decides.<p>He's been wrestling with it for weeks, but he has finally decided to give his notice. I am very happy because I see this as a turning point for us. Right now we spend maybe 4-5 hours a week together, this should allow us to get up to the 20 hours the Harley's say we need. Plus he'll be able to do more with the kids and help around the house.<p>He has moved the majority of his stuff out of his apartment and lives here now. He gave notice for Dec. 1 finally so the rest of the stuff needs to get out by then, and I guess there's no turning back from there. His lifeline is gone...<p>Hope all is going well for everyone else. I am staying up late tonight (H is working until 7am), so H and I can sleep together tomorrow morning (kids are at parents).<p>OH!! AND I listened to my wedding song today, and DID NOT CRY!! That was the one song I couldn't listen to still, now I can... [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>HbH
