Hello All, <p>It has been a while since I have been here. I thought things were fine between H and I. He came back home saying he loved me and would forget about OW. Sixteen months have past. Suddenly I am served with divorce papers just last week. He moves in with OW. I knew things were rocky, but I figured he just needed extra time for withdrawal/ recovery. I now realize he lied all the time to me. It turns out OW was back in the picture just a couple of months after his return home. When I asked him if she is trying to contact him he said "no" and that I have nothing to worry about and he would never, never leave me.<p>I have been served Divorce papers in the past and we ended up stopping it before he moved back home in Dec 1999 (he left again in Feb 2000). <p>My problem is the OW keeps pushing divorce papers at my husband to fill out and submit. The second time he left he was able to stall this process. This last time was so bizare since we have been basically happy (so I thought) and living like a married couple in every sense of the word (if you know what I mean). H just tells me its over and we are not compatible. I tell him how can we be compatible with OW sticking her nose in at every turn. <p>Before he came back this last time (16 months ago) he told our oldest daughter that OW offered half her house if he would divorce me and marry her. We do own our own property, so this is real crazy. I am dealing with a nut case of an OW and wonder what else is going on. She has such control over him. We were always such equal partners in our marriage. I am totally baffled.<p>My question is about Plan B and the chances for me at this point. I can now do Plan B but I will have to have contact with H since we have a divorce pending. Can this be called Plan B? Does anyone think there is hope for me to have him come back after all this? I still love him so much! <p>I am just so scared since I believe he will marry OW as soon as our divorce is final. We have been married for 24 years. Anyones imput would be greatly appreciated.<p>Thanks, Pam<p>[ November 03, 2001: Message edited by: betrayedbeyondbelief ]<p>[ November 03, 2001: Message edited by: betrayedbeyondbelief ]</p>

Dear Pam,<p>I am sorry to hear of your pain. The OW in your life sounds like she is related to the one we are dealing with. Mine offered money also. <p>So what is driving him back? What else is she offering that he can't get at home? You know, these OWs make big promises. Mrs. Psyco Babble Rabbit offered, schooling, her home, money, travel, setup H with an internet business,etc. all for sex in return. <p>Do you remember the 3 temptations the Devil gave Jesus? The last was: "I will give you all these things (rulership over the world) if you bow down and do 'an' act of worship to me". Sounds like what these psyco OWs are offering to the WSs and they are falling for it. <p>How credible can someone be who breaks vows? Mrs. Rabbit made promises but when push came to shove, WS came up empty handed. He was willing to spend money on her, even buy her car from her so that it would not be repossessed. He doesn't remember all those attempts of him to help her out but he did. Now if she was so well off, why did her vehicle get repossessed and her house almost go to foreclosure? hm....... <p>I can see that you are in shock. Have you talked with Steve or Jennifer? Please keep posting here. It is sad to see someone we care for go through such pain. When the BS sees the WS inflict pain on himself and his family, it is heartwrenching. Please continue to post and vent here as often as you need. We will be here for you. <p>Take Care,
L.

Thank you Orchid for your reply! This OW has offered to pay for at least one of the divorces. My husband says he is attracted to her for fincancial reasons since she has a full time job and I just work part time. She is not rich that I know of. He also likes the fact that she is part man I believe [img]images/icons/shocked.gif" border="0[/img] She likes a lot of things guys like and even told my husband she had a lesbian affair [img]images/icons/shocked.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/shocked.gif" border="0[/img] <p>What I have to offer him is domestic support. I enjoy cooking and everything else that goes along with it. The OW does not know how to boil water. I also offer him family commitment. I have done everything for our two girls that a mother should do [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img] OW left the town her two children reside in with her ex to come down and chase after my husband. [img]images/icons/mad.gif" border="0[/img] We never had sex problems, in fact he told me before one of his returns home that he would rather be with me. Knowing our history I do believe him in this respect. He did not run off with some young hot babe.<p>My H says OW talks to him. They have wonderful conversations. We used to do this also and told H it is hard to talk to me and treat me the way I ought to be treated with this OW in the picture.<p>Thanks again,
Pam T

Hi, <p>Well offered and actually do are 2 different animals. Could be a bluff. The OW left her children? Says a lot about her character. Does your H think she is going to be loyal to him? She isn't even loyal to her own offspring that she brought into this world. Hmmmph......<p>I called H and OW's bluff, I told him that if the OW was such a 'great catch' that he needed to hurry up before some one else stole her from him. Well bottom line is that no one would really want her and that evident because her H left her a while back. Her A appears to be a revenge A against her H. Stupid, greedy and selfish OW. She thinks she is intelligent and hot stuff. But she doesn't have much friends and has to go on the internet to catch men unawares. Also dumb men who think they can find a true friend by posing as a someone they are not. <p>In a sense I forced them to show their true colors. It was not a color it was black, OW did not look as appealing in the light, only in the shadows can you hide all that hideous stuff. <p>L.