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Does the pain of being betrayed lessen after the first year?
someone please tell me yes.<p>This year has been horrid and i dont know how much longer i can hang on.<p>with h and i if it isnt one problem its another....
cant i have a normal life/ marriage??<p>
just needing some reassurance<p>thanks luv,
roxy

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Rox,<p>I only hope that it'll lessen, I am far from that point, but I wanted you to know that you're in my prayers tonight.<p>God bless,
kev

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Yes, it does, when you (and I) realize that nothing they can say will make it go away.
I have been so stuck on WHY!!!! Know what, It doesn't matter!!! He did it, it's over and WE are surviving and recovering together.
Never thought I would make it this far but I am happy again...in a different way than pre-A but all is redefined. He is the H he should have always been and I'm trying very hard to be grateful...NOT for the A,that will never happen but at least for him coming to terms with being grateful for what he has.<p>Hang in there,new guys, if I can do it, I know you can. Resentful,angry,LBing ME!Something will click in your head...

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It does get better. Keep venting and get out those feelings with safe people. Don't let them fester inside and when appropriate learn how to convey your feelings to WS without anger, demands and disrespect. The key for me is forgiving and letting go. Obsessing is the enemy and it wears one out to try to figure out why, when, where and how come. I am done with all that. It gives such freedom. When the time comes, those thing will need to be answered but for now they are not avaialable to me?<p>Many things have brought me to this place---this site, books, hours of prayer, fasting, resting on God's provision for me. I never ever thought I would be feeling so free. I was the most codependent, fix everything, force a solution type of person and this is a miracle. I do experience deep sadness at times and I think it is about missing my H and what we had together. I still cry and it is from a deep sense of loss but it is not everyday or 3 or 4 times a day. It is not "how can I go on" crying. It is just cyring that is feeling my feelings. It is almost very cleansing.<p>I think he is interested in coming home and I find that scary soooooo I will rest in God the best I know how about that.<p>TW


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