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I need some advice really badly . . My fiancé and I just graduated from college and he’s been looking for a job and has not been able to find one. The past week has been really rough for him. THis is my question . .what should I do to try and help.. He is feeling very sad and depressed and like he is totally worthless. I know jobs and all that type of thing are very sensitive topics for men, but what would be the best way to help to cheer him up? I am going to see him tomorrow at 2. HELP me please !!
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Seeing that you've been on here since August, I'll assume that you've read up on EN's. My suggestion is to look through them again, and see what things you can fulfil for your fiance.... without being overintrusive.<p>Only you and your fiance know what kind of things make you both happy. You need to talk to him about what he wants. If he tells you "I don't know", accept that as the truth for the moment, and think back to things you've done for him in the past that made him smile.<p>In the main forum menu, there is a forum dedicated to cost efficient dates (sounds better than 'cheap dates', huh? [img]images/icons/tongue.gif" border="0[/img] - but I can't remember the actual title right now). Maybe reading through it may spark some ideas to get his mind off of the job search stress.<p>Karen
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Most guys rank admiration fairly high on their needs list. As Topie25 said only you know, but if you are at a loss in this instance, what would it hurt to cater to that need if you where wrong? Think of a way to tell him you admire his tenacity in his job search and how the way he has reacted to things not going smoothly makes you love him even more.
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