How many of us here have partners who INSIST that what happened was really "nothing?"<p>Aren't you glad to know that, in spite of what you saw and heard and read and felt, there was really "nothing?"<p>Since these other people meant &#8220;nothing,&#8221; and keeping you shut out and in the dark meant &#8220;nothing,&#8221; and what you saw meant "nothing," you are obviously upset over &#8220;nothing.&#8221;<p>Now, only a crazy person gets upset over &#8220;nothing.&#8221; Anyone who gets upset over &#8220;nothing&#8221; has NO RIGHT TO FEEL THE WAY THEY DO. And that's exactly what your partner is telling you.<p>Every single day, we are told that we are crazy and have no right to feel the way we do. How could it be otherwise? It was all &#8220;nothing,&#8221; right? Only a crazy person gets upset over "nothing!" NO ONE has any right to get upset over "nothing!"<p>Maybe they can tell us just what it is that DOES continue to eat us alive everyday, since it couldn&#8217;t possibly be &#8220;nothing.&#8221;

Hey PB, <p>Haven't heard from you in a long time..... [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Ok, so you are making a big deal out of nothin'???
hm...... yea I was told that too. That was a few months ago. <p>Here's what I did. I threw back the 'nothin' and said, ok if that was nothin' here's your personal challenge. I need something..... here are my needs. Give him the list or whisper it in his ear. <p>I need constant reassurance, love and attention. Whatever your ENs are. Let him know that you need to get to that point where she is 'nothin' to you also. <p>Think he is up to that challenge? Mines working on it and found out this nothin' was really sumthin' and now this sumthin' keeps calling back. So now 'sumthin' has a new status of being annoying...... next step? The police..<p>At least that's where I'm going. <p>Take Care,
L.

I, so very much love the "Nothing" phrase. I found out "Nothing happend the day we barried my brother in law, and "Nothing showed up,at the barrial, pushed me away from H and kissed him. I wanted to vomit... Needless to say, a year of feeling totaly insane, and guilty was an honest confession about "Nothing, and doin' "Nothing at work in her office. I spent a year of my life going nuts... If there are any "Nothin's" out there, please be honest so going on with life can take place. Tell the truth. It is harder to heal and stay, than find out a year later that what you knew was going on was true. The sick thing about it all, is that I felt guilty for "Nothing". I am "Nothing's" Lovers Wife....He is my husband..."Nothing has a husband of her own. Thanks for your entry.. Both my husband and I are working very hard to move on with our lives. It is just so hard, because "Nothing is at work every day and won't leave my husband alone. Got any suggestions on how to confront "Nothing"?<p>Thanks...
cnuc[Maggie]<p>cnuc{Maggie}

HI PB,
I am just laughing away here this morning at this post.
I think our Hs are the kings of 'nothing'.
From H, "those women were nothing...I dont know why you cant understand that. I'm here instead of there, right?"
ahhhhh, how many times have i heard all of it meant 'nothing' because he didnt love them!
Thanks PB (for nothing?) [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img]
aloha, cl

Just had to chime in here. Especially since first thing this morning "Nothing's going on! There is nothing! Do you want me to make something up?!" was yelled at me on the way to work. Nothing was hanging up when I answered the phone and putting extra mileage on the car, etc., etc.

Oh yeah - the only time I get yelled at is when I am getting way to close to Nothing and refuse to back off.<p>In other words, he only gets mad when he's hiding something - but always insists he's got Nothing to hide.<p>I refuse to take "it was nothing" for an answer anymore, so it's back to WWIII at my house. Gee, wonder what THAT means?

does an 'after thought' count as nothing?<p>I couldn't believe when H said that "sex was just and after thought."

How about Nothing's sister, "I Don't Remember?"<p>I don't remember who was on the phone 5 minutes ago, but I remember the entire 49ers lineup from 1984. <p>I don't remember what OW said to me at the party, but I remember exactly how many jars of washers are in the basement.<p>I don't remember if she kissed me on the lips or on the cheek, but I remember how many interchanges before Arby's.<p>I don't remember al of the drunken giggling things she whispered in my ear in front of you at the Christmas party, but I remember the Snakelight I want from Mopar is $9.99.<p>GIVE ME A BREAK.<p>R.

How about the other sisters....."Just did", "got home whenever it was", "it was spent", etc., etc.<p>I swear my head will explode if I hear one more time that there isn't, never was, and never will be anything going on. In other words "nothing" is going on!!<p>Why do they all think we are so stupid as to believe their lies. Wouldn't all of us have much more respect for them if they didn't say anything as opposed to lying their behinds off???!!!