Well, my retainer is on my lawyer, still can't believe WH could do this right before the holidays [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] She did give me hope finacially, but there is so much to settle on and go over we have a long way to go. My hope of him coming to his senses is fading fast, I believe he is happy and this is what he wants, still difficult to accept.I am entitled to half of all his pensions all retirement annunities and life ins. and his social security, I don't think he realizes what he has gotten himself into.<p> Love Sally

Sad,<p> I am sooo sorry that you are feeling this pain right now. My WS served me with D papers right after new years day. She was only gone for 5 days. She also seems so happy without me and the kids. I wish I had the words to comfort you right now, but I can only say that I understand.<p>Indy

Thanks Indy, I appreicate your support, I will never understand the logic of a WS. What goes around comes around, someday they will get back all the pain they have caused us. [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img] <p> Love Sally

Hugzz...Sally...<p>Remember even when it is over...it might not be over...<p>Don't dwell on H. Dwell on YOU. <p>Prayers,
C A L I

Thanks Cali, Your support means a lot to me and helps me cope, I hope you are feeling better. Thanks for the Hugs.<p>
Love Sally

Oh Sally,<p>That is such a hard step. It sounds like your lawyer is at least understanding tho. Wish I had dropped mine. He is WEIRD!! Makes this all the more difficult.<p>I don't know why they do it either. My H was here all day at D's horse show she put on at the high school. He couldn't look at me or talk to me.
He left without saying good-bye to me or the kids. Then he left an angry cell phone message on my cell phone. A few minutes ago I was putting Kyle to bed and reading a story. The phone rang and I had trouble getting out of bed to answer it(my neck went out today, and I am having such a hard time moving). Anyway, it was him. He left a message on my phone. He sounded sad, and lonely. He said thanks for letting Kyle visit. And then he just mumbled a little bit and finally said I will talk to y....um Kaitie, Kyle, Meg and Mandy later. Dad Weird isn't it. Why did he do this. We had a good life...and now it is awful. He looks horrible. His hair is long and scraggly, he has circles under his eyes. Is he truely happier? He has given up so much--his family, his integrity, his lifestyle, the ability to support us. I don't see how he could do that without being miserable. Yet, he caused all this himself. <p>I didn't mean to go on like that. I sure can empathize with you tho. Please take care and know that I will be praying for you and your family. Neither of us should be going through this. I wish we could change it. Take Care Pat

Hi MnM, Sorry I didn't get back to you sooner, I am feeling very numb right now, I feel so hopeless and cannot believe he is doing this to us!! I am sorry that you are having pain also my thoughts and prayers are with you and your kids, I think of you often I know what you are feeling. My H has given up all the same things I don't understand what they are thinking, Its very strange. The holidays will never be the same for me and suppose for you also. Well you take care of yourself and continue to be strong.<p> Love and Hugs Sally

Hi Sally,<p>Thought about his phone call last night. Decided to call him today and see how he was feeling. <p>He was back to his cold, rationalizing self. Oh well....thought maybe a light was coming on last night. Guess I was wrong. <p>Hope you have a great Thanksgiving. We are driving down to Dallas for a soccer tournament and to see my brother. It will be nice to get out of here for a few days. <p>Take care of yourself. Things are supposed to eventually look up for us. I have to have faith in that. Pat