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HEYYYYYYY Bryan!! hahah....i know what your problema is????!!!! you are good looking!! tha tis your entire problem LOL....well ok...on a serious note...<p> what do I (im 29) in a man.<p> ....1...confidence (not stuck up) 2. fun! 3. great sense of humor OHHHHH wait.....<p> 1....can cook 2. can clean 3.. confident 4. great sense of humor..<p> oh wait.....<p>hmmm ok no numbers [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] <p>......can cook. clean. confident, sense of humor, fun to be with, not too serious right off hand. looks nice, smells nice...into trying new things, likes to read, movies...walk..talk....romantic... [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] honest, respectful, no anger issues, no abuse issues, likes to dance..oh yes..dance [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] ...ummm....likes children as well as pets.<p> [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] ....ok.....not in order but necessary LOL<p>good luck to ya bryan<p>MERCY [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]
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After giving this question a lot of consideration, I've come up with one trait that is an absolute in any given relationship in which I am a participant:<p> LOYALTY
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Mercy..<p>*smile* Thanks for your message! I am not trying to be cocky when I say that I am good-looking, but it seems to me that many women are not really interested in getting to know me! I am very confident and a decent guy, but it seems like most of the great looking girls are dating guys that don't care about them and they seem to be (CHALLENGED) by this garbage! This is something that I will never understand!<p>Take Care<p>Bryan [img]images/icons/cool.gif" border="0[/img]
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<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by GeezLouise: <strong>After giving this question a lot of consideration, I've come up with one trait that is an absolute in any given relationship in which I am a participant:<p> LOYALTY</strong><hr></blockquote><p>I agree Louise!
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I never saw this thread before, but I would love to add my two cents [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] I'm not looking for anyone, but my feelings are the same as they were before I got married. First of all looks are not that important. They do matter, but are not the highest issue. Before I ever married I dated cute guys and not that cute guys. It's a matter of chemistry between you and the other person. Just because a guy is cute doesn't mean they will click with the girl. It's a combination of alot things as well as an attraction. My husband was absoultely adorable when I first laid eyes on him (he still is [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] and I was crazy about him right away. It was after talking with him over time that I knew he was the one [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] Anyway basically you have to meet just the right girl and everything will click and you'll know she's "it". I wish you lots of luck [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img]
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This is an interesting topic that I needed to bring back...let me know your thoughts.
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PB. what I desire is for my H to be the man I married or thought he was!
Loving, caring, faithful and moral values based on Christianity as I am Christian.
I want him to be there for me when I'm ill. And when I'm not! I want him to be a helpmate, not putting chores in categories of male/female.
I want him to love me so much he can't think of being with anyone else. I want him to appreciate that he has found the woman who does meet his needs, not be with me thinking he'll change who I am later on!
I want consistency in who he is! I want an honest person who can stand up and tell the truth no matter how bad it is!
I want him to be able to accept I am not perfect,but close enough to fulfill his dreams and desires.
I do not want him flirting with every thing in a skirt! I feel his ego should be high enough just having gotten me to marry him because I am someone special! He thought so in the beginning, and he should stll think so.
I want communication! Which means he should be a person who can tap into his feminine side just as John Gray writes in his books! Show emotions!
I would not want a man who hides behind the old, "It ain't manly" type of behavior!
Be real, be sincere, be honest! And before marrying, make sure you are ready to commit to this one person for the rest of your life. Because they are technically putting their life in your hands! And vice versa!
Confusing? I guess. LOL sorry, but there is so much I want and need. But I've always been willing to return the same to him, or whatever he ask of me. It just has to be honorable, loving only me! My H once told me there are a lot of women out there he could love. Well, guess what? There are a lot of men out there I could love. But if I love him, why should I keep looking? Same goes for him!
God bless, LouLou
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lady..
You make a very valid point! Its one of those questions that is very tough to answer! Why did my wife have an affair??? She actually told me that she doesn't know....and I believe her! She was not upset with me etc...she was just looking for something that I couldn't provide her whether it was good or bad.
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+B,
I just HAD to add my two cents here!
First, I would like to point out that there are some WS's out there that are truly repentent and have sincerely committed to being faithful in their next "R"! Imagine how dedicated a truly remorseful person would be after going through all of that devastation and then facing the damage they caused......I know that in my own situation, I would probably be MORE dedicated to being honest and open because I know what the consequences of not doing so are.....
With that said, I just want to add that in closing your mind to that opportunity, you are missing out on dialogue that might actually help you gain some insight that you would miss otherwise! People have their reasons for the choices that they made. Imagine finding someone to care about that had answers that would take some of the triggers and pain away.....
Anyway, I'm off my soapbox.
If I were looking for someone, I would be looking for a person that was confident in who he was. I would be looking for someone that cared about his health. He would have to have reasonable work hours, and be able to set boundaries with his responsibilities. He would have to be willing to be vulnerable, and respect my vulnerabilities as well.
He would have to be someone that loves to have fun, and isn't afraid to try something new. He MUST love kids (mine of course) and be willing to work at on the issues that come up in step families. He would also have to be capable of making a commitment and working with MB principles.....I think that I would like it if he was willing to be my partner, not my caregiver....
<small>[ January 28, 2003, 03:20 PM: Message edited by: kily ]</small>
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