I just posted on the Recovery board.
I just wanted to thank everyone here at MB for all their love and support.

Alberta -- I read your other post. Sounds like you're hearing what you need to.<p>Just curious...it often seems to me that BS's are awful quick to call themselves "recovered".<p>From what you're describing, it seems like you're on the right path, but isn't there some kind of...i dunno...waiting period or something? After what you have sooooo recently been through, how can you have any confidence that this will stick?<p>I don't want to rain on your parade. But I also hate to see those hopes skyrocketing so high. We all know what a ride this can be.<p>Is this more of that "rush to call things good" phenomenon that I see in BS's?

Thanks for your reply Lexxxy - (I think). I certainly am being realistic - this is a step for us.
Lots of work lay ahead on the road to true recovery. I'm relieved right now that made this decision, now its a matter of follow through.

Alberta, I haven't read your other post yet, but I have been wondering about what lexxxy posted.<p>I wonder if people can 'recover' too soon. D-day for me was June 19th. There have been times where I was on top of the rollercoaster and feeling so fantastic and hopeful. I get concerned that I am stuffing feelings and that's why I get so up. It hasn't failed yet, I always come down [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] It seems like at first, the down time was a crash, but now it seems to be more manageable and I can recognize it coming on.<p>At first, I was also trying to be so spiritual and not focusing on the negative aspects. Realizing that everything happens for a reason, quit asking 'why', cuz the real answers will never come, thinking about this as a great learning experience, a real time for great growth and all that. That's all fine and dandy, but I *needed* to feel as well. Feel the anger, the pain and the sadness, just as long as I embraced it, acknowledged it and then let it go. It's not easy, but for me, thinking that everything was fine so early on was a false reality.<p>Good luck to you!
~peace,
tinlizzy

Lexxy - I never jumped to the conclusion that we had "recovered", but that we were back on that track to recovery.<p>Since posting this, more developments have ensued and my H is talking about separating as a way to then find his way back to me. <p>I've posted on the recovery board about all of this and don't have the knowledge or energy to create the link to that post here. If anyone can do it - great.<p>So, I feel a setback today, but for my H it is a step forward as it sounds like he's finally working at being honest with himself.