I know, it is overwhelming and esp. when you see how astute and protective some MBers are (and should be) of this forum. It should be a safe haven for so many who are not recovered from their A's, such as you, and still in so much pain.<p>Whether the pain is coming from being in the FOG or from being "raped into stepparenthood" when OPs get pregnant, or from being lied to so many times until the truth is unrecognizable even when it bites you in the butt, pain from our kids all suffering, or whatever, the purpose will always ALWAYS be marriage building here.<p>So, as you can see, we are serious about helping ourselves and about helping others, such as yourself. We're sort of a team, I guess. Some people are personal friends offline, some e-mail each other, some just hang out and chat here. Some people you will agree with and some you will not, all sorts of religions are represented, but I don't usually get blasted for my Christian values. Just know that all religions and backgrounds are represented so sensitivity and politeness is required for MB survival. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Nevertheless, don't be afraid. OR, if you still feel overwhelmed, change your screen name and proceed with caution. Folks will recognize you if your way of typing is similar to prior posts so take your chances... It will amaze you. There are several computer savvy people who can even find out what server you are posting from. Just don't come here trying to lie because you will get busted. You will see it happen to others if you decide to stick around. It would be entertaining if it weren't so sad.<p>If you are sincere, then you have found the right place, because most people out here are sincerely looking for a place to share and exchange information about recovering from affairs and/or preventing affairs and most importantly, implementing the principles introduced in the book, His Needs, Her Needs and others by Dr.Harley. Surviving An Affair might be a good book for you to read. Good luck to you! As you can see, we do care about you and don't want you to leave! So stick around!<p>Many BSs really seek answers from WSs who post out here because a lot of WSs go into withdrawal from the BS because they are still in love with their stupid OPs or vice versa (okay, that was uncalled for), but you know what I mean... They are still in love with this person they believe is their soulmate or whatever... That sounds soooo [img]images/icons/rolleyes.gif" border="0[/img] UGH! I'm trying to say it in a respectful way to you, but no matter how I try to say it, it sounds yucky!<p>I was a former OW home wrecker, but I didn't see myself as a home wrecker at that time since I was not in love with the MM nor trying to purposely steal him from his wife. Okay, so I got pregnant by this man and went on with my life. But now, looking back, I was every bit of a homewrecker. Yes indeedy I was... I did nothing to prevent getting involved, so I was what I was--a stupid slut with VERY much self-hatred. I'm not that anymore, but just thought I would share this with you. Today, I have a good grasp of God's love for me and this has given me a firm grip on self-acceptance--something valuable to teach to my 3 kids.<p>Just let me say that you will get NO SYMPATHY by coming here to whine and pine and sigh about how much you love and miss your OW, okay, so don't even go there. If you want to work on your marriage, fall in love with your wife again, and learn creative ways to win your wife's trust back, you have definitely come to the right place. <p>Okay, I'm done rambling. Glad you are still lurking out there. We'll be keeping our eyes open for you to post again! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]<p>[ November 30, 2001: Message edited by: BINthereDUNthat ]</p>
