[original post deleted-it's just not worth it]<p>HIG<p>this is for you:<p>katiescar@hotmail.com<p>[ November 28, 2001: Message edited by: Katie Scarlett ]</p>

What a load of crap! She asked if she was an OW and she got the right answer: YES. She also got the TRUTH about how WS's lie so they can cheat. How is that NOT supporting her? She did not ask for support. If she was looking for ANYONE to tell her that she's right, her conscience is clear, she did nothing wrong by shacking up with a MM, then NO she did not get support. Do you think it would have been morally right of us to tell her it was O.K.? Dating a MM, no matter WHAT BULLSHI* they're handing you is WRONG, WRONG, WRONG. Do we feel empathy for her because she let herself get duped? I can't speak for anyone else, but yes I do. Is it now up to her to make the right choice? YES. If she was married, and her H was out lying to a co-worker about his M so he could get into a relationship with her, would she not consider the co-worker the OW? GET REALLLLLLLL!!!!!!!!!!!!<p>MOM

You took the words right out of my mouth MOM. The OW asked a question and she got the answer. The Marriag Builders site is a site for building marriages. Hence the name.

And another thing Katie Scarlett,
I'm confused as to why you're even posting here. This is a Marriage Builders website. You are posting in the infidelity forum. You are a happy SG. So what's your purpose, other than to stir up trouble.

Scarlett,<p>You know, you are chewing us out here for answering her question as honestly as we can. Please note that the people who responded to her were both BS’s and FWS’s. If they are a little harsh, well affairs are harsh. Why is that the BS is supposed to take all the hurt from an affair and stuff it, not love bust, Plan A like fools and the Poor OP is so injured and we are supposed to walk on egg shells around them?<p>I'm sorry, but affairs ruin lives. They are not things to [censored] foot around about. Maybe, just maybe HIG will understand the depth of pain and lies that go on in affairs. Maybe she needs to realize the depth of what she has been duped into. <p>I have a lot of sympathy and empathy for HIG. But I know that if I were in her shoes I would want someone to hit me along the side of the head with a 2x4 if that is what it took for me to see what was going on. <p>The thing that I really find funny is that anytime posters here respond to a non-repentant WS or OP with passion, someone else comes out of the woodwork to chastise all of us. Yet go to gloryb.com. You know the OP haven. If a person dares to express the viewpoint of the BS the OP posters descend in a feeding frenzy. This lasts until the moderator kicks the BS off of gloryb and erases their posts (“poofed”). Go over there and try it. It could really be great sport for a person with too much time on their hands.<p>Could almost everyone on MB learn how to be more diplomatic with people? Yes. That goes for me as well as for you. Scarlett. None of us here are professionals. We are all learning as we go. Instead of chewing people out, the best way to teach people as good approach is by example. I have learned a lot here about how to talk to people in this open forum by studying their way of speaking and emulating them.<p>Z