Follow this link for precluding information.<p>I think it really helps to have all of these other people here who can give advice on what can work, and what doesn't work. I think it is also beneficial to have WS's here too. That way we can see both sides of the fence.<p>Just a little update. Wed. night was the first night that we actually started "talking" to each other again since thanksgiving. We got along excellent. I had to take one of our cars to a transmission shop to have it looked at, and we met up there to go to the rental car place for a car to drive in the interim.<p>Anyway while we were at the rental car place we were taking the car seat out of the car and putting it in the rental. So we had some time to chitchat. We had a very nice conversation and it looked like she wanted me to ask her out to dinner or a drink. As hard as it was for me to do so I refrained. So yesterday (Thursday) we met up again this time at the doctor's office to take our daughter in to get checked out (poor thing has a sinus infection [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] ). <p>After the appointment I walked her out to the car and helped her put baby in the car and she asked me if I wanted to get a drink. I said yes, I would like that. So we went and had a couple appetizers and a tasty beverage. Along with that came EXCELLENT conversation (but she did bring up money briefly) and we got in a quick little tiff. Nothing to get pissed off about. Anyway to make a long story short, we left the restaurant and walked out to the cars and she had a cigarette so that she could talk to me some more [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] and when she was done we continued to talk a little more, and then when we said our goodbyes she gave me a hug. I said "thanks, I had a nice evening." Her reply was "I did too!"<p>I just need to continue to be genuinely nice to her even when the going gets tough. I can see changes in her attitude towards me when I do.<p>Oh the other thing is that I didn't ONCE bring up our relationship at all (as hard as that was). We just talked about her day, and how things have been going in the past few days. This worked like a charm [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img] <p>In addition to all of this other crap she is complaining about OM. Quite often I might add, but then when she is mad at me she tells me how much she loves him. So, they are having there own issues after 2 months of being together. This makes me happy. I just really need to stick to plan A and not falter. I know that I can win.<p>Anybody else have any other advice for me?<p>EDIT: I also forgot to add, that I don't think she has filed for a D either!!! I don't know though, cause I won't ask her about it. I just don't want to bring it up with her. She hasn't said anything to me about it, so I think she has put that on the back burner for now. Hopefully to wait and see what happens with us.

Sounds like you're doing an EXCELLENT Plan A. No advice as you are doing all the right things. Be sure to take care of you too!! Prayers going out to you.<p>MOM [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]

I agree with MOM, sounds like you are doing a great job!!! Keep up the good work.<p>BTW, you will not "win". This is not a contest between you and OM. You have already won and he has already lost. No matter what the outcome, you WILL BE a better man after all this.<p>He, well, he'll just always be "the OM".<p>Don't bring up the divorce or negative stuff like you said. It's not the time or the place to do that right now.<p>She probably also tells you all that stuff about OM just to hurt you because she is mad. If it were true, then she wouldn't make a point of only saying it was she was PO'd now would she??<p> [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]
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This relationship is just totally UP and DOWN. This is getting VERY old. She thinks that I am having an affair now, cause I have a friend who is female. She is now trying to keep me from my daughter. <p>I went out on Saturday night to a christmas party, drank too much so I got a ride home and left my car there. I was supposed to have my daughter on Sunday (didn't know what time, she was to call me and let me know) she finally called me at 1:30pm and asked me when I was going to pick her up. Well, I was on my way to get my car, she knew this, and she knew that I was with my female friend. She called me already pissed off at me. I just calmly asked her to stop yelling at me. She of course didn't. Now today, she is telling me that my daughter is sick and she just wants to be with Mommy. Her idea of letting me see her today was driving me home from the rental car place to my house.<p>So I finally talked her into staying at my house for a little bit, but now she is saying that she doesn't trust me and that she wants someone to be there when she is there???? I just want her to come home and be my wife again....

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