Hello,
This last week has been HELL!!!! My WS contacted the OW last friday after about 3 months of no contact and every day since. Said he can't get her off his mind. She is his best friend. They are on the same page. He needs some answers. (There A lasted 2-1/2 yrs.) He is not happy anymore and doesn't know what makes him happy. He has been very short with me, and asked to sleep in sepearte bedrooms. I love him so much, and cry all the time and he gets even more angry as to why I'm crying. Says we always talk about the same stuff, always end up hurting each other, always bring up the past "well you did it too" kinda thing. MAJOR LB's. I've been reading up on co-dependacy, and I know I am very co-dependent. I think this is my fault, and what can I do to make it better, yada, yada, yada. He asked me to wait 3 weeks so he can find the answers he needs. The not knowing is tota HELL! I asked him if by talking to her again, he rekindled their relationship and he said not any more that what was already there. I don't want to lose him and he won't let me move out. He wants his space, but finacially neither one of us can move out. Want's to cash in our 401ks, to pay off some bills (yes it's that bad) and even he want's the divorce we both need to live here unitl we are more financially stable. I can't do that. I need to move on if he decides to end this. How the hell can I live in a house evey daywith a man I am in love with, know the feeling isn't mutal. His response: I thought we agreed on this. You really need to go see a money counselor. #$%@^ him. All he cares about is money. When I say all I care about is him. I sense that he want's to reduce the debt to divorce me, but he says I read way to much into stuff. Questions: Do we have a chance? How can we stop the LB's? How can he get over the OW? <p>F-35
Married 6 1/2 yrs together 10
D-day 5/01
no kids
no contact letter (H said it wouldn't change anything)
In counseling since 6/01
PS. Said he still loved me this morning, but he is just in love with her more.