I just found out yesterday that my mother is in the hospital. She lives in Tampa Florida and here I am in a small town in Indiana.<p>She apparently went to the ER Friday night with stomach pains and while there started having chest pains and was immediately admitted and put in the cardiac ward. I was just told last night. My mother has been laying in the hospital for 3 days and I didn't know!! Nobody bothered to call me. The only way I found out was because my aunt called me to ask what she could get my daughters for Christmas and she started asking me how my mom was and I told her I was worried because I hadn't talk to her for a few days. That's when she decided to tell me.<p>My mother....though she wasn't around much while I was growing up and wasn't the greatest mother....was here for me while I was going through all this with my WH....she was he only one from my family that was here for me. She dropped everything and spent money that she didn't have to come all the way up here and be with me. To me that says alot. She held my hand through this whole thing......she was the only person that cared about what I though and what I was going through. She is still the only one that seems to understand what I'm going through.<p>I'm at a low point today....my lowest of lows.
I am not speaking with my father and his wife because they are constantly trying to fix me up with someone that they think is better than my WH. I just found out that I can no longer talk to my sister about anything as she goes to my WH and tells him everything that I say...my aunt is the same way. It's like my whole family is against me.<p>When I got the call and hung up the phone my WH knew something was wrong. I told him what it was....and he didn't say much. He doesn't care for my mother.<p>Later I was sitting on the couch trying not to cry because I don't know what's going on and he asked me if I was ok...I said I guess and then he stated that he was going to go out to the garage and work on some things.<p>He came back in later and went to the store for me. When he got back I was laying on our bed....I just wanted to be alone for a while. I got up to get our daughters rooms ready for bed and came back in our room and he came in there.....grabbed my arm and asked me what was wrong. I told him that I was terribly worried about my mother and I started crying. He grabbed ahold of me and held me and hugged and kissed me and tried to tell me that everything would be ok....and told me to call her house and see if her b/f was there so I could get more info. I did...but he didn't tell me anything I didn't already know. They don't know what is wrong with her.<p>I told my WH that I couldn't stand the thought of possibly losing my mom without being able to talk to her and tell her some things. He said he understood. He then went on to tell me that he would find a way to get me there and he would work it all out....for me not to worry about it. BUT.....me being me....the first thing I thought.....he's trying to get rid of me so he can spend time with the OW. I didn't voice it...just thought it. But he swears to me that he isn't doing anything......even though I know he's deleting #'s off of his cell phone.<p>So tell me guys.....exactly how much should one person have to go through?<p>I feel as though I'm getting ready to lose the only person who has helped me keep my sanity...and when that person goes.....then so will my sanity.

{{{Miss Pris}}} I'm so sorry that you're going through this extra pain right now. Let me suggest to you that even if you lose your mom, which isn't absolute, right, you have always had and always will have GOD to turn to. Ask for him to hold you up. You may have to ask on an hourly basis at first, but trust me, he wants to help you through this. I'm praying for you, your mom and your WH. You'll make it through this. <p>MOM

Miss Priss,
I'm sorry about your mom, I hope that you can work out a way to see her soon.<p>Hugs and prayers

Miss Priss,<p> I am sorry to hear about your mother. It is very hard for someone that we love to be ill. I will pray for you and you mother tonight. <p> I didn't realize you were in Indiana. I am here in Indiana as well. If you need anything let me know. You can contact me at the email listed below.<p>Indy_357@email.com<p>Indy

MP, I am sorry to hear about your mother!!!<p>That was very thoughtful of your H to be there for you when you needed him. At least you have that to be thankful for, right?<p>I will keep praying that you find out more information and that your mom heals fast.<p>HbH

You're not alone...we're here! I think it's wonderful of H to take on the problem of making the trip for you. I think it's a selfless gesture. Please don't read more into it than he does love you and understands your need to see your mom.<p>Have a safe trip and know that we are praying for you.

How is your mum doing? I'm so sorry to hear that she's been in hospital... I was there for 11 days when I had the twins in February... it's AWFUL!!! <p>You are so right, in how your mum was there for you during your really rough time with your H. I remember her posting on here for you to tell us about YOUR medical problems at the time... and then I chatted with her on icq one evening. I told her that I thought she was awesome for being there for you.<p>I hope you will be able to find a way to get to Florida to be with her now. Why is it that sometimes things like this happen just before Christmas? [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Keep us updated as best you can.<p>Karen