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ARPOW,
WOW!
You seem rather composed & again, I like your Kick-[censored] attitude.
Isn't amasing how people can tell us we need to "Trust Them" when there is so much eveidence & your's is very compelling!
I just want to remind you that if you have love in your heart for him that with your clear & specific actions of your intient to proceed with process of divorce, that with that reality starring him in the face, he could have a dramtic turn around.
As bad as he has been & as obvious as your eveidence, I'm sure he is like so many WS, including mine, they will lie & cover up until there is no other alternative. It amases me how creative & quick the WS can be in covering up their lies!
Hang in there!
Know that you are in my thoughts & prayers!
HH
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wow arpow -- so sorry to hear this update.<p>He doesn't deserve your trust. And if your C knew the depth of his lies, I'm sure they wouldn't recommend trusting him.<p>They should be recommending that he start being honest. That would be a good place to start.
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ARPOW, I'm so sorry. Your WS is being a jerk, but you know that.<p>My H did many similar things, including the 7 separations 14 out of 21 months. It took almost 2 years & me serving D papers until he had a complete change of heart.<p>Just a caution on proceeding with the D...if you don't want a divorce, don't start one. I think that if I had served the D papers 6 months earlier when the A was still on, we'd probably be divorced instead of in recovery. But of course, that is a guess.<p>I think you should think strongly of Plan B. The way your H is lying and disappearing will drain your lovebank in a hurry.<p>You may as well give your H rope...he's running with it anyway. In Dobsons LOVE MUST BE TOUGH, he advocates opening the cage door for the WS. It really is horrid that it is this time of year, but it seems to make the A more attractive rather than the family--just the oppposite of what one would think.<p>A big hug for you {{{{{{{{{{{{ARPOW}}}}}}}}}}} I went through 2 bad Christmas seasons, one with the A rekindling, one with a spouse in total withdrawal. It's just plainly a bad thing.
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