Not sure if it was her - H said he was going to be on his own this weekend. Never lied to me before about seeing her, so can't understand why he would now. <p>Was driving down the road and saw her from the back standing at an ATM. Looked quite carefully - definitely the same hair, shoes, ect... She's not exactly the greatest dresser (meow!), so I wouldn't be surprised if it was her; BAD clothes. It really was the spitting image of her from behind. Thing is, she was alone and quite far from where my H lives. Don't know, though. He could have been waiting in the car somewhere. <p>My heart sank. I got that sick feeling in my stomach. I calmed down a bit, had a quiet freak out. My friend (who wants to rip her head off) and I were in the process of parking, and I needed to go to that same ATM, as well. But by the time we got there, couldn't see her anywhere. <p>Okay, I admit it. I rang my H. He didn't answer. Which wouldn't surprise me if she was in town. But he also had his company Christmas party last night and could be extremely hung over and have his phone turned off, which he IS prone to do.<p>I feel horrible. Why would he start lying to me NOW? Not sure how to handle this. My Plan A instincts are telling me not to mention it, unless he brings it up first. If he says, "OW came down this weekend" I could just say, "I know. I saw her."<p>AAAAAAAAAARGGGGGG!

V,<p>I think you have it EXACTLY right with the last sentence you typed (excluding ARRRRRGH! [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img] ). Say nothing, and if he brings it up, say exactly what you typed. Then wait, and watch. Read him, does it make him uncomfortable? If so, well then, maybe he's worried WHERE/WHEN you saw her (and with WHOM). Just might give you an insight as to what's to come with WH (lying, sneaking, etc...).<p>Or, if he makes no indication that he's guilty for lying, maybe the DIDN'T hold anything back from you.<p>Either way, you'll know a little more than right now, and hopefully, you'll be equipped to handle it.<p>Take care,
Kev

Gotta agree with Kev on this one. It may not have even been her, you only saw her from the back and if you accuse your H of lying you are going to set back all of the wonderfull work you have done.<p>And if it was, it may just be a comnplete coincidence. Just bite your tongue and see if H brings it up. You said he has not lied in the past about seeing her, why would he lie now.<p>Needing