<p>[ January 20, 2002: Message edited by: Bunny ]</p>

I am dealing with the same issues...and I am sorry to say, I really don't know how to handle it. <p>My H has moved in with OW in KC. He expects the kids to go up there. I don't want them around her.<p>He moved out April 1...he started bringing her around them the end of May. He had the little ones lie about it. He even took her out on our boat with them...and to their hotel room. Disgusting.<p>I don't trust him with the kids. I am sure she will be there one of these times.<p>Could use some advice too.

<p>[ January 20, 2002: Message edited by: Bunny ]</p>

Sadly, unless you have reason to believe that your children are in danger while with your H's, you can't do squat. He can do whatever he wants to do with them, during his visitation times (within reason of course... travelling out of state or out of country may not be considered 'reasonable').<p>My best suggestion for you both, is to find a family law lawyer or clinic in your area, and talk to them about visitations, and what limits you can put on your H's. IMO, the legal way is the best way (and trust me, it is FAR more rewarding than last minute spewed out LB's ... [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] ).<p>And of course, depending on the ages of your children (more like their maturity as opposed to ages actually), have THEM dictate what they want to do and who they want to do it with. Yes, should they enjoy spending time with OW, then it could be hurtful for you to hear that. BUT, there's just as much of a chance that they DO NOT like spending their daddy time with OW. If that's the case, then let your kids tell your H what THEY want to happen. Just a thought.<p>Karen