OK, so the OW is LB'ing all over the place. The actual A ended about 2.5 months ago. They still work together. Apparently, she told my WH that she is no longer interested in him, that she does not know what she ever saw in him.<p>My interpretaion, I am mad at you for not starting up the A with me again right now and so I am going to say mean things. If you leave your wife though....<p>My WH tells me this last night just after he tells me he still has feelings for her and thinks he may want a divorce.<p>So, does this sound like pressure from OW to be with her again. Seems to me that H is so deep in the fog he can't see, think, hear or smell straight. I know he is not going to come out of this until she is completly out of our lives. <p>Problem is, that does not look like it's going to happen anytime soon.<p>Needing

I am sorry to hear this and I read somewhere you mention that changing H job is not possible or not willing. A has to end, even on his mind only !, to give a chance for your M. Plan A'ng all the way ... I thought my WW is in the deepest fog but your WH just surpass it.

Hey Redhat,<p>Yeah, the fog is pretty thick around here.<p>No, my WH is not willing to change jobs. He is planning on moving out next month, and if I find out that the A has started up again then, I will file for D. That I can't take. It's my line in the sand.<p>Good Luck to you, I hopr your W's fog starts to lift soon.<p>Needing

OK, update on the fog.<p>The post above was from conversation with H on Thurs night. He has slept in our bed Thurs and Fri night (no SF just slept). Although there was some sexual tension last night, we watched Swordfish and he thinks Halle Berry is really hot so I'm sure that contributed to the tension.<p>Now, I just got off the phone with him, he is out doing Christmas shopping, he tells me he was just in the bookstore and spent most of his time in the relationships section. I asked him if he found anything intersting, he said yeah. <p>Yeah??? This from the man who practically told me he wants a divorce and loves, oops, sorry, HAS FEELINGS FOR the OW.<p>It just all gets to confusing. I know that he is confused too. I know that he is not sure what he wants. I know that this should be viewed as positive. <p>When I hung up the phone, I just laughed, it is such obvious fog, and he thinks he is soooo unique, that his situation is soooo different from anyone elses. I would love to show him some of the threads here on "things the WS says in the fog" They must get issued a manual.<p>So, all you prayer warriors out there, I need all the help I can get. Maybe, just maybe, he is entertaining the idea of another shot for us. Please pray for us. Thanks all. As always, it feels so good just to have a place to vent all of this out.<p>Needing

Needing your WH sounds a lot like my WW. I think this site is all that keeps ME out of the fog. You're on my prayerlist. Jerry.

Consider yourself added to the list.<p>Peace !

Thanks guys, I need all the prayer I can get. I finally told my parents the whole truth last night. They knew already. Apparently my whole family has known since March. They just kept hoping it was'nt what they thought it was.<p>They are extremely supportive. They tell me they love WH, love me and are praying for us to heal. So, at least I have a few more prayers going out.<p>jerry, yes this site has definatly helped keep me from going completly and utterly insane. Thank God you are all here. It always amazes me how so many people that are in such personal pain are willing to reach out and help a complete stranger.<p>Keeps me going.<p>Needing

Done !. Did you give WH hints about MB's books ? ... LOL!. My WW's fog is getting thicker during the weekend.

Hi Redhat,<p>He knows about this site. He does not come here though. I occasionlly print things and give them to him. I usually add a note that says something like, read this or not, up to you, I thought it was interesting. I never expect him to respond, and I have noticed that he has read pretty much everything I have given him.<p>He has read parts of SAA, although not all the way through. Let us not forget, HE is DIFFERENT from EVERYONE ELSE IN THE WORLD!!! To him everything is just to neat and tidy. One pat answer for everyone's problems. <p>Well, gotta go. Just got off the phone with him again and we are going out to dinner with someone he works with. Gotta get the candy off my kids face and put on my "Everything is just GREAT face"<p>Take care all. Thanks for the support. Will check in tomorrow.<p>Needing