is when she is leaveing a man. Occassionally I see news reports that prompt me to remind folks to be careful...for all our talk about principles, and choices, and behaviours and such, there still runs deep dark currents in people, that ofteh we overlook in our complacentcy.<p>On the local (detroit) news tonight, a man was being arraigned in court for murdering his exgf, and a male friend of hers. Note, not even married, and officially broken up (no affair like scenario)....he admitted to following her today to a Kmart parking lot (stalking behaviour), she was with a male friend (who had apparently spent night with her), he just wanted to talk (whatever), and accosted her in parking lot, he claims he doesn't know what happened, just lost it, had a knife and stabbed her multiple times, the male friend tried to intervene and died also (albeit bravely) of multiple stab wounds. The point being, do not indulge in confrontational behaviour, and of course watch your back. Witnesses heard an argument, this is not necessary...if your xanything follows you anywhere, assume this is very serious, and act accordingly. On TV the guy looked perfectly normal, just like you or I. White caucasian, physical fit, looked ok, short hair, just another guy.....but a powder keg. Every year in this country 100's of women are murdered by the men who "love" them, and thousands more seriously injured, never forget that when things start getting rough in your life. Many times these men are not violent prior to the event, but usually their women were afraid of them, walked on eggshells etc. Just be careful.

SnL,<p>Thanks for a very important reminder. Something like 2/3 of women who are murdered are murdered at the hands of husband/lover. Ex or otherwise. <p>Another important bit of information is that this is most likely to happend when the man has been extremely emotionally abusive or physically abusive. Usually the 3rd time a woman leaves an abusive man, he will kill her. <p>The lesson in this is if a woman's H/boy friend is abusive, she needs to make a clean break early in the relationship THE FIRST TIME SHE LEAVES HIM. There is no going back.<p>I'll make a bet that this guy your story is about has a history of being abusive. She, or other women may not have reported it to the police, but I'll bet he was.