Hi to everyone, hope all is well. I have been so busy with work and kids, I have not had time to get on this computer. I have been trying to read all of your posts and see how all is going, My situation is the same. I celebrated my 39th birthday on sunday, without WH. He took the kids out to get me a prsent which was nice but he let me know that it was from the kids and not him. I am still waiting to see what kind of settlement he and his lawyer come up with, I guess he is really going through with it.<p>
I have been very dpressed lately with the holidays and all this will be our frist holiday separted, its so painful. I will be spending my frist christmas alone with my mom, WH will have kids that day, I will have them Christmas eve.<p>
I hardly ever hear from him, maybe once or twice a week he will call or come by to see the kids. He does not see them enough. I am starting to come to an realize that this is the direction my life is taking and I must accept this, it is slowing sinking in that my marriage is over.<p>
I suppose he really started himself a new life. Well I hope to hear from you all. i truly missed all of you.<p>
Love Sally

Hi Sad Sally,<p>You're not the only one who is depressed over the holidays. My WW and myself still live together, but it's really tough doing that right now. We hardly talk and she has been sneaky lately. I have filed for D last month because of the 8 months of hell that I have been put through. I love this time of the year. It's my favorite, but I can't enjoy it. I am going to try and do this for the children.<p>Sally, what I do is to think on what I have. I have two great boys who are healthy. I have great friends who give me support 24/7. I have a great job and I am also healthy. It will be the toughest thing I have to do. I still love my W, but she wants nothing to do with me, and it hurts. But, I must move on. Going down this road, she gets really nasty lately. <p>Keep your chin up. <p>Remember - everything get better. It may take awhile, but it does get better.<p>Dino

Hi Sally! I'm glad to see you are alive even though things are not going well. Just remember, that this a common phase in the long process and there is still hope. Hang in there and don't give up.

Hi Sally i was wondering how you were doing, i am sorry you are so unhappy but i know just how you are feeling.
This will be my first holiday without my H as well, im going to spend Xmas day with my family.
It will feel strange as i have spent the day with H family for the last 26 years.<p>The best thing is to try and make the most of it and try to enjoy yourself, hard but i know we can do it.
At this point Sally i think i have give up on my H as he seems to have given up on our M.<p>((((((Sally)))))) to you and your family, take care Sally and try to enjoy Xmas if you can, you will be fine i know you will and so will i.
Take care
Liz

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by lizzle:
<strong>This will be my first holiday without my H as well, im going to spend Xmas day with my family.</strong><hr></blockquote>
Hi, Sally & Lizzle:
I have to take issue with this statement. MY take on it is "This is THE ONLY holiday I intend to spend without my H..." I DO NOT Intend to be "here" next year! As far as spending it with my family, well, that's not totally a BAD thing....<p><strong> <blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>It will feel strange as i have spent the day with H family for the last 26 years.<hr></blockquote></strong>
I'm sorry you will miss them, but this is such a funny (in my circumstance) I just have to tell this story!!!! One of the negative things my WH DIDN"T like, and "used" as an excuse to leave was, you "don't want to spend any time or holidays with MY family" (him speaking about HIS family) - "we always have to spend every holiday with YOUR family" (him speaking about MY family.) Uh, never mind that HIS family is several states away, (except for the few who live in our state, but hours away by car). OK, we DO try to see his son during CHristmas visit to that area of the state, I guess son doesn't count as "his family" ?!?! Mine lives closer, so logistically it's easier.<p>Well, WH moved in w/OW. Now lives near his son, and his brother. Just told me last week that Son is going "away" to DIL's family in far northern state for Christmas. Brother and SIL are going "somewhere away" for Christmas. Hmmmmm, I guess family doesn't want to spend time WITH HIM!!!!!! [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] <p>I just had to laugh. The man who wanted to be with HIS FAMILY - not mine cause his is SOOOOO close (NOT!!) isn't going to be with ANY OF THEM. All he'll have is OW. Hmmm, hope it's a good day! I, on the other hand, will ONLY have "my" family.....SAME CHRISTMAS AS EVERY YEAR FOR THE LAST 25. I'm sure he's glad NOT to be part of it this year. [img]images/icons/tongue.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Take care of yourselves, and try to enjoy where ever you are going. Christmas is about loving and giving.....NOT missing what is gone (temporarily).<p>God Bless,
Lupo

Sally<p>just thinking about you and sending warm wishes to you this holiday season. hoping you do all right