hailey,<p>It is good that your parents taught you self sufficiency and that you are centered and at peace with yourself.<p>I have always known my own happiness is up to me and no one else. These are things that I was taught too and that I am passing on to my children. They are also learning that lying, cheating, stealing, adultery, and any other number of other bad behaviors will not be tolerated in my home. I hope they take those lessons with them when they leave to be on their own.<p>These are hard things to teach to children when their own father (in my son’s case) and their own mother (in my step-children’s cases) set such poor examples. When mommy leaves 5 year old children unsupervised at night so she can party, drugs, have affairs and leave the children unsupervised what do we tell the children? It’s ok for mommy and daddy but not for you? <p>RE: p.s. zoreweb, if you want to fight - go somewhere else where someone will fight with you - I will not.<p>I am not fighting, nor do I want to. If you choose to take my posts as such then so be it. I feel that I am simply sharing information and parts of my story with you. It was my understanding that that is why you are here. Perhaps you are not used to people who are forthright about their feelings. It is ok or you and I to disagree on things. We should be able to say things that we do not agree upon and still have a discussion. <p>There is something that I've been curious about. You seem to be very upset about many of the responses you are getting her on MB. This is an open forum so people will respond in the manner they think fits. Sometimes it helps if we tell people what we want. For example, there are days when all I want my H or friends to do is to listen to me. I don’t want input, advice, or criticism. Other days I want some very blunt input and/or advice. We have all arrived at an agreement that we tell the others what we want on a particular occasion. It keeps people from getting what they don’t want or need.<p>Why don’t you give an explanation or example of what you want? For example, if all you want is for people to be supportive of your decision to have an EA and not stop contact with MM, then say that. Then people who do not feel good about giving that support will stay away from your threads. It seems that most of the members here can never get it right when it comes to posting to OP. It seems that no matter what we say we are chastised and wrong. So what is the proper way to post to an OP? Though it may sound like I’m giving you a hard time about this, I am serious. I really don’t know what OP who come here want from us. That is one type of information we could all use here.
