Hi,<p>I have had an awful Christmas.
Saw H's exW yesterday , and she told me her Ds have been talking about OW spending a lot of time with H again. So in early Nov, after their mutual decision to quit seeing each other, it was on again in a few days! I didn't need to be a fortune teller to know that, H's behaviour went with the scricpt book and all the same justifications, angry outbursts etc. started again. ExW had also asked H what's the future with you and OW. H avoided to answer, ummed and aahed and so on.<p>Later last night I talked to MIL and she confirmed it.H, SIL and her family had been invited to OW's house for a barbecue! I got mad to hear they had agreed to go. But...SIL wasn't happy about it, she had seen OW as a calculating and cold person, and when a richer(H is broke!) , better guy comes along, she's off to new pastures. Well, this is her 2nd A with a MM (3 year old child by that guy. He went back to his
W)and who knows how many others, she's divorced with 2 kids by her ExH. H had been talking disrespectfully to OW and the whole thing had looked odd and not like they were a couple in love ??? MIL had seen OW's kids playing outside H's house few days later.H was babysitting them. I still can't see H as a father/stepfather of 8!!! I still can't believe this thing between H and OW will work. What a mess. H spent the morning at his exW's place with all his kids.I never went around, I was invited by exW, but no way I would have been able to face H. Now H is all free tonight having fun?(or fight!!!!) somewhere with OW, trying hard not to let it ruin my evening , one sleepness night was enough.And plan B goes on... I get a feeling the A will blow off in the next month or two. I'm so tired of it, but not sure if I'm able to have H back anymore, if he comes knocking on my door...we'll see.<p>Hi Jo (Resilient),
If you read this.. thanks for being concerned about me. I am doing better now , the morning was awful, talked to a friend in the afternoon, that helped. She's got 6 horses and we spent few hours talking about them instead of H! I read somewhere on your threads you have got a horse/horses too, am I right? They are such beautiful creatures.They take my mind of this mess.
Hope all is well with you.

Hi Bears in the forest, just wanted to reply to your post as i see you have been suffering this c**p for 18 months the same as me.<p>My H OW sounds similar to yours as well, she was on her second M when H met her and H is her 3 or 4 A (she is now divorced).<p>My H is totaly smitten but to me she sounds like a right tart!!
Maybe thats the attraction, but whatever it is sooner or later he has got to make a choice.<p>It must be so hard for you having young kids to cope with while you go through this.
Take care.
Liz<p>Liz<p>[ December 26, 2001: Message edited by: lizzle ]</p>