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It was very sad. I didn't know but my H bought small gifts for my mother with a card explaining how sorry he was for the pain he had caused this Christmas. He did the same for his parents. I was shattered. First time he's ever done something like that on his own. Feels like it's the another step closer to the other side. However, he came to spend Christmas Eve with my family. We went to church together on Christmas morning and then I did spend Christmas day with his family. Although he did remind me that he didn't want to be married to me (said this on Christmas Eve). <p>BTW, went on Christmas visits together too. H bought a beautiful scrapbook for D and he wrote in it that he was sorry that he could not be here in body all the time anymore. It was just so FINAL. I mean, this is a keepsake for my D which she'll read when she's older. I said, What if...H says, she'll know what I was going through...<p>Sad all the way around. Most depressing Christmas I've had since I was in my teens...

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Hi Terrified, I am with you... my H all the sudden is on the same boat... I am just not what he wants now. It is the worst thing you can possibly hear... are you plan a or b? Sounds very much like he is feeling quilty... try hard not to lb as much as you can... because the LBing is driving my H farther away... sounds like maybe you do not have that problem... it is terrible for a father and a H to abandon home for someone who should never of interfered in the marriage to begin with... maybe he will figure himself out eventually.... I know the kids will not be happy... about what dad does.. sounds like he will miss his D, your D... what are these men thinking? <p>HONEY

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Hello Honey, I'm in Plan A. I found that Plan B really doesn't work well with kids. These WSs are SO difficult to figure out but I guess the trick is to stop trying to figure THEM out and focus on something that can make sense. <p>It's hard isn't it? My prayers go out to you.


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