Hey guys:<p>I spent about 10 hours over the last week making a heartfelt X-mas present for my W. Bought a nice scrapbook album and created 12 certificates to do (mostly) romantic things for her. I interspersed pictures of us together over the past 9 years along with little statements about how much I appreciate and love her. <p>Certificates ranged from thoroughly cleaning the bathrooms (a job she knows I hate) to taking a trip together to the destination of her choice. One certificate for each month of the year (a couple good sex ones too!).
The present was very well received. She immediately sat on my lap and hugged me for a long time. W has been cuddling with me in bed and talking about when and where we might go on a trip together. These things she had no interest in doing a few weeks ago. She even expressed an interest in reading some of the Harley books I bought.<p>I am hopeful this signifies she is coming out of the withdrawal phase and that she has noticed changes while I have been Plan A-ing. While she clearly continues to be distressed (and stressed out) lately, we seem to be communicating better since I have been trying not to take her angry outbursts personally, and being there just to listen instead of trying to fix.<p>I am cautiously optimistic at this time. Will slowly try to step up some more of my Plan A activity.

Wow - sounds great! What a thoughtful thing to do and I'm sure it is helping the fog lift.
Hang in there!