I would appreciate any input anyone out there could give me. I have been implementing Plan A for the last 2 weeks with my WS. My husband, I believe is still involved with OW but because I have really taken strides in changing my response to him (no longer criticizing, judging and working on my issues) not only has he not mentioned a separation but has really physically supported me with coming over to our home and helping with our children (fixing meals, cleaning, etc.) while I have recovered from minor surgery. My question is this: right now our kids go to my MIL's home 3 nights a week while I'm at work (where WS lives) and while that is working out okay, would be it good for me to encourage WS to come home possibly M-F (while I work at night) so that the kids can have more time with him and where Plan A could be that much more effective?<p>Or should I leave "well-enough" alone and continue working Plan A (and praying a lot too.)<p>Thanks in advance for your help/input.

just my thought here, keep doing what you are doing and let him come to the conclusion he wants to come home.

On the other side of the coin......<p>You can ask if he would be comfortable coming to the house during the week or if it would make things simpler for everyone especially the children if he came to the house during the week. I'm sure he'll tell you exactly what he thinks. You never know.<p>I also have a strong opinion about Plan A being the most effective with both of you living in the same place. It will give him opportunities to see the changes that you have made and allow him to start feeling more comfortable and safe with you. I know that this made a difference for my H.