My FWS has told me that he is leaving after the new year. He has been saying this since early Dec. He has not told me anything to the contrary.<p>If that is the case, why is he taking a bunch of household projects. He never has before. He is cleaning the spare room as we speak. Says it's because he is tired of living in the clutter and mess. If he is planning on leaving, should'nt he be looking for a place instead of making our home nicer?<p>Why is he being more affectionate with me now? Even after our incident yesterday w/OW he was actually very nice and apologetic when he got home. (I will update the other thread and let you know what happened)Talking to our 4 yo about respecting his mom, more than any other woman in the world, then he actually said, "except for your wife". Meaning that the wife should receive the ultimate respect, even more than mom. My mouth dropped open.<p>Is the fog lifting? I am way to afraid of getting my hopes up. I had decided to give him till the end of Jan to choose to re-commit and take appropriate actions, or I would ask him to leave if he had not already.<p>I guess I just keep operating with the assumption that he is leaving. Give him this month to decide and then let him know where I stand. <p>Commit to marriage
No social contact w/OW unless I am there
Take steps to rebuild my trust in him
Marriage Counceling<p>Any input?

Here is the thing, they want to go, they beg to go, they demand to go, but in the end they cant leave and you have to kick them out. At least that is my experiance and many others that I have seen. Unfortunatly I am not sure it means a change of heart and fog lifting or just fear of the unknown and not wanting to leave the comfortable nest.<p>So you need to deceide. If he isnt meating your requirements to be in the marriage, you may need to ask him to leave... alll of a sudden it totally changes the dynamics, and that can be a good thing. Stick with your plan and be stong about what you need for recovery, or else he will continue to be a waffle man.
Lora

<p>[ January 20, 2002: Message edited by: MMMMM ]</p>